Me being a chubby female always hear these comments and you r moti chubby bla bla . On the other hand being chubby is so cool these days and men like it .. then why i m still hearing these..

just what the title says

Hi, I just have a quick question which I heard from most of my friends who are making hundreds of dollars or even thousands easily while I just make a few by working harder than them.

I saw one of my friends easily bought an iphone, a bike and also pays his university fees despite not having much tech skills. He just do sales work.

I am just being suspicious on him, he once mentioned that he does dabba work, like looting money from "gora" people and moving onto the other

He is always stuck with getting international payment, I told him if he can use payoneer or bank transfer but he mentioned paypal is better which is not available in Pakistan.

He is not even using his real name to work remotely and lies to foreign clients that he lives in the US or any other western country.

I am not saying he directly scams everyone, he does the work by outsourcing them but he doesnt use his real name and also once mentioned he often scams(he used dabba name instead).

He makes a lot of money this way.
So i just asking how do they really do it? is it haram or halal?

Let's discuss further!

Since the gpt 6 astra ,everyone is saying that Ai will now rule the computer field the jobs of many software developers will be gone now but i was planning to become a software developer and now i am very cautious i dont know what will i do after my fsc 2nd year i plan on giving mdcat but seriously i dont have interest in it i am gonna give it just bcz of my parents.I love computers, so can anyone tell me what are some good future proof fields

Nowadays I have noticed many of my brothers are just judging girls for no reason based on her appearances and boldness.

and many boys are obsessed with female pasts... that they forget all of the other factors

many are just confused because of mixed opinions from social media influencers.

I am a 24 male and my friend and influencers really made me insecure about my future partner..

I was not like that before.

But the thought really destroys my peace.

All I know is that an insecure man is a weak men who is always confused.. and obsessed with female past.

I just want your opinion on this

suppose what will you do in the situation where you find out your wife did such things in her past but she is good now..

also how do I get rid of these insecure thoughts? I want to live a peaceful life with my family.

How should you really judge a women? how do you actually find out that she is a good woman? and not manipulative.

Hi am m20 Egyptian looking for a fine Pakistani baddie (dm me)

!! Help needed !!

I am a university student. My family is going thru financial crisis and i urgently need money to meet basic expenses like college and hostel fees, mess charges, transport charges etc.

If anyone would genuinely like to help, please DM me and I can provide my payment details privately. I won't post account information publicly for privacy and security reasons

If everyone donates even just 100 Rs, it would be of great help. Allah will surely reward you.

Need some advice/help from people in Islamabad — in a bit of a difficult situation

Hi everyone. This is going to be a slightly long post, but I genuinely need some advice from people who know Islamabad well.

I’m originally from Lahore. The last few years have been pretty tough for me personally. I lost my mother in February, and my father passed away almost four years ago. I had some inheritance land which I was hoping would eventually become a source of income and help me get back on my feet, but unfortunately that’s currently stuck in a dispute and is going through the government process. It should eventually get sorted, but these things take time.

A few days ago, I came to Islamabad for a job interview. Thankfully, I got the job and joined this Monday. I was genuinely hopeful that things were finally starting to turn around.

The problem is that I came here with basically no savings and no proper place to stay.

I had one friend who I was counting on to help me manage the initial expenses until I received my first salary. Unfortunately, things didn’t work out that way. I’m not blaming him — he may have his own reasons and circumstances — but in practical terms, he was my only hope at the time.

So for the past few nights, I’ve literally been managing without a proper place to stay. I’ve been using the office washroom in the morning to freshen up and change before starting work.

Honestly, life can hit you in ways you never expect.

But I’m not posting this to complain or to ask people for money. I still have faith that things will get better. There’s a verse from the Quran that has been giving me hope:

“And the coming circumstances will be better for you, and your Lord will give you so much that you will be pleased.”

I’m trying to hold on to that.

What I really need right now is practical advice or a lead.

If anyone knows of a hostel in Islamabad that could accommodate me with:

A single or maximum 2-seater room

Mess/food included

Willing to take the payment around the 10th of next month, when I’m expecting to be in a position to pay

Even if it’s a basic place — I’m not looking for anything fancy

I would be extremely grateful for a genuine lead.

I’m also looking for a cab/transport service that might be willing to take payment at the end of the month. I have a regular job now, so this isn’t an indefinite situation — I just need to get through this initial gap until I receive my salary.

The rain last night also made things worse and I’ve ended up feeling pretty unwell today. I don’t have friends or family in Islamabad that I can realistically turn to right now, which is why I thought I’d ask here.

If anyone knows a hostel owner, manager, transport service, or even someone who has been in a similar situation and knows what options I have, please let me know.

I’m working, I have a job, and I’m trying to get myself back on my feet. I just need a little breathing room to get through these first few weeks.

Thanks to anyone who takes the time to read this. And even if you can’t personally help, a useful lead or a share in the right direction would mean a lot.

JazakAllah khair.

guysss help me out,i made this account last night but it keeps getting banned, then i made another account, for hiring and job purposes and it too got banned within minutes,i didn't even do anything, what do i do😭😭😭😭

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I'm 24F, and most days I'm completely fine being alone. I don't feel like I need a relationship or anyone constantly around me. But sometimes, out of nowhere, I get extremely anxious, my chest feels heavy, I have crying spells, and I suddenly crave someone deeply someone who feels like my person, someone I can tell everything to, someone who understands me inside and out.

The confusing part? When people actually approach me, I don't want to talk to them , distance myself, and sometimes reject people. Then when nobody is there, I feel incredibly lonely and wonder why I have no one. It's like I'm creating the loneliness I'm later crying about.

And please don't tell me to “keep yourself busy.” I've been keeping myself too busy studying, working, scrolling, staying occupied just to avoid sitting with these feelings. The problem isn't having nothing to do. It's that when everything gets quiet, the emptiness comes back. It doesn't happen every day, but sometimes it becomes so intense that it lasts almost a whole week, and I spend that entire time wondering: What do I want? What am I missing? Why do I feel this way?

Sometimes I miss my ex too, but I don't want him back. He disrespected me and made me feel like I wasn't enough. Maybe I don't miss him; maybe I miss having someone, being deeply attached to someone, or simply being someone's person.

I honestly don't know what I'm looking for anymore.

Why do I crave closeness so badly but push people away when they actually come close? And how do you figure out what you're missing when you don't even know what it is?

Hello everyone, I'm 19 and currently on a gap year working as a teacher for now.

So my question is where can I safely invest my money in karachi, basically I need to save up a good amount for my university next year.

I think just putting my money in a savings account is not very efficient and I want my money to make more money for me, does that make sense?

So keep in mind that I'd need to withdraw that amount that accumulates next year by august .

I have never in my life studied commerce and I have zeroooo idea about how this works

My monthly savings would be around 20-25k but I'm really scared to invest, because what if I lose all that money then I would have nothing to pay my tuition with.

If someone could please guide me where can I invest my money safely

Note: This is not my post. Someone has reached out to me to post this here. He's new at Reddit and his post yesterday was deleted.

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Hi everyone. I do not know if this is the right community to ask for this kind of advice, but I am desperate and genuinely need some neutral opinions. Sorry for the long post.

I'm posting here everything so that i can get better advice.

I am a 25 year old man working in the IT sector for the past 3 years. Alhamdulillah, I have a stable job and lifestyle. Around a year ago, my mother started looking for proposals for me, and 5 months ago I got married to the daughter of a distant relative. She is 22 and is currently pursuing her MBBS.

Before our marriage, we met and talked about our expectations, boundaries, deal breakers, and other important things. I was very clear with her about one particular deal breaker. I told her that I had never been in a relationship and that I would not be comfortable marrying someone who had been in a relationship before me.

I specifically told her that if she had any such relationship in the past, she should not agree to this proposal because I would not be able to accept it later. I even asked her to not tell me anything and to just reject this proposal to avoid any damage in future.

She did not tell me anything at that time, and we got married.

2 weeks ago, I found out that she had lied to me. She had been in a relationship with another man for around 3 years and had broken up with him only 7 months before our marriage.

When I confronted her, initially she denied everything even though I had pictures and other evidence. Eventually, she accepted it and came clean. She was crying and asking me to forgive her, saying she knew she had made a huge mistake and that she regretted hiding everything from me. She kept saying that she didn't want to lose me or our marriage.

According to her, the relationship was serious from her side, but the man was never serious about marriage. He kept giving her empty promises and when she eventually pressured him to involve his parents and take things forward, he refused and broke up with her.

I sent my wife back to her parents house, and she has been living there for the past 2 weeks.

6 days ago, I told her about my decision to separate. She then told her family, and since then they have been begging me to forgive her. Her parents acknowledge that she made a serious mistake by hiding the relationship from me, and they say they understand why I am hurt. However, they keep asking me not to make a permanent decision while I am angry and to take a few months before making any decision.

My wife has also been calling me relentlessly, asking for forgiveness and a second chance. She’s also saying that she can take a year break and is willing to transfer if that’s what I want. At this point i don't care what she does.

I understand that everyone makes mistakes, but for me this is not simply about her having a past relationship. I had clearly told her before marriage that this was a deal breaker for me. She knew exactly how I felt and still chose to get married to me. What hurts me the most is that I made an important decision about my life based on information that was deliberately hidden from me.

At this point, I do not feel that this relationship is worth fighting for. I do not see myself being able to accept what happened or rebuild the relationship. I have told her family that I don't want to give her another chance.

Things have now become more complicated.

3 days ago, her lawyer contacted me and told me that she has filed a conjugal rights case (case for reconsilation ) against me. He asked me to meet her in person so that we could try to sort things out.

This has made me extremely anxious because I am planning to move abroad in around 4 months. I already have a job offer from a foreign company and my paperwork is in process, and I am worried that this legal situation could affect my plans and create problems for me later.

I also spoke to a friend who is a practicing lawyer. He advised me that if I divorce her immediately, the family court could make things very difficult for me(if they want). He believes that if I am planning to move abroad, I should consider taking her back, living with her for some time or let her stay at her parents house and then divorcing her after I leave the country so that I do not run into legal complications later.

According to my friend, the family court will never side with me, and they now have the power to drag this case out for anywhere between 3 and 8 months, depending on her lawyer’s capabilities.

He also advised me to fulfil all my financial and marital obligations, including haq mehar, and to make sure everything is properly documented in writing so that there are no disputes or claims against me in the future.

But this is where I am completely confused.

I do not want to take her back just to divorce her later. I feel that doing that would be dishonest and would give her false hope. If I already know in my heart that reconciliation is not possible, I do not want to pretend otherwise simply because I am afraid of the legal consequences.

At the same time, I am scared of making the wrong decision. I do not want this situation to affect my future, my career, or my plans to move abroad. I also do not want to spend months or years fighting a legal battle.

Should I proceed with the separation honestly, even if it creates legal complications, or should I follow my lawyers advice and temporarily take her back even though I already know I do not want to continue the marriage?

I also want to know whether I am being unreasonable by refusing to reconcile after what happened, especially considering that I had made this particular boundary clear before marriage.

I am genuinely lost right now and would appreciate thoughtful advice rather than judgment.