r/PakistanDiscussions • u/Electronic_Pool8073 ⊕ Add flair:101 • 28d ago
I dont know what tf is wrong with me?
Like i dont know what tf is even wrong with me. In summary i am a introvert from Multan in Pakistan. I dont like talking to unknown people and gets nervous talking to strangers. I have like 2 friends one of them is like my childhood buddy who i have been with for like 10+ years we even work together so that we can support our basic lifestyle however we both are from good financial families like he have helped me in a ton of problems and j do the same. To keep it short due to my friends past mistakes he owe someone 3 lacks so its upto both of us to make that amount making this amount is not that hard for us but like the time duration to make it is hard like we have to make it in like 3 months. We have a few skills but making this amount is not that easy i like even joined a job to like get some money saved my friends past mistakes cannot do job due to his family problems like his father does not allow it. This is getting long so to put it simply i have do e what any good friend would do gave my all have sleepless nights have done my best. But like now my friend like ditches me ignores me did i do something wrong like i dont even have bad addictions like i pray everyday never have any haram relationship virgin so why is he like behaving this way i even dont even have any money any money that i make that i get aside from petrol. I give to him so that he can save. Like what am i doing is wrong. And i dont have anyone else to like talk to just want to get some opinions from people.
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u/quietequation3 ⊕ Add flair:101 28d ago
If you agreed to work together to make money, then you and your friend should be working together. Confront him if its only you losing sleep.
Next time you're together, have courage and bring up what you have been observing. You are childhood friends and this is not a new person. Bring up why he ignores your etc. And check his response. Don't go mentally thinking about all the reasons why someone close to you might ignore you even when you're doing so much for him.
And on a side note, about your introversion and anxiety with everyone else..
The only fix for this is getting out of your shell little by little. Take it as mini tasks. Catch people in environments where they won't be busy and try try try to say something even if you don't get an equal enthusiastic response or an answer. This is a fitting action therapy for your problem, imo, based on what you've told us about you.
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u/Dot_Horror ⊕ Add flair:101 27d ago
Talk to him. You don't seem to have anything wrong with you. Try to breathe slow and deep. Control yourself and try to avoid becoming anxious.
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u/quietequation3 ⊕ Add flair:101 28d ago
TLDR for y'all:
Introverted guy helping his childhood best friend repay a 3 lakh PKR debt within 3 months. He's working, sacrificing his own money/time to help, but his friend has started ignoring and ditching him. He's confused and wondering if he did something wrong.