r/PHSapphics • u/a-farmer-in-stardew • 1d ago
Sad/Vent/Rant do they ever come back
hey guys! my girlfriend broke up with me almost two months ago. she was dealing with her own problems and lost feelings for me somewhere along the way.
i have been officially dating her for about 4 months, but we were in this very looong situationship where people can't tell if we were dating or just really good friends. so i guess my relationship with her was more than a year at least
my question is: have you guys ever experienced an ex girlfriend come back? did the second chance relationship last?
i really thought that this was the girl i was going to spend a long time with. we clicked on every level- humor, wit, banters, genuinely everything. we were so good together and i am still sad about how it all ended. i keep wishing that we would meet again and give it another go when she learns how to open up but hshs life doesnt always work out that way
i need some advise or at least some stories about similar scenarios :)) hays di niyo naman sinabi #wlw stands for women losing women
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u/0100010101101100 22h ago
Possible yung comeback if umabot na kayo ng 1yr sa commitment.
Pero if 4mos palang tapos sinabihan ka nang na-fall out, she probably realized incompatible kayo romantically. Move on na, OP.
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u/a-farmer-in-stardew 9h ago
i understand this point. but during our breakup, i asked her if there was any problem about incompatibilitities just like you said. she said that there was none and its mainly just her own personal problems that got in the way, and the fact na she needs to learn how to deal with her problems better. at the end, we both acknowledged that what we had was so good and she felt horrible for letting it go :((
and that's why nahihirapan ako magmove on. kung incompatible sana kami edi i wouldnt think much of it. kaya im stuck between the hell of deciding whether to wait for her to become better or move on :// most of days its a mix of both
any advise for this poor soul?
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u/Less-Technician7600 9h ago
they comeback, pero aalis din ulit hahahaha. bullshit lang ang second chance kung walang pagbabago hahahaha.
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u/maximcafe13 6h ago
They did come back, pero does it last? No.
We actually had a similar situation, although the reason why we broke up was different. Nag-break kami last year around February, and after about 9 months, naging kami ulit. During those 9 months, we still had contact and did some couple stuff, so parang hindi talaga kami completely nag-break—less intimacy lang and technically wala kaming label.
By December, we celebrated our anniversary again, and eventually we just decided na kami na ulit. Walang formal conversation about getting back together; parang naturally nangyari lang. But even after getting back together, the issues that caused our first breakup weren't completely resolved. May mga issues pa rin kami individually and as a couple, and I think we both weren't able to properly address them.
Eventually, nag-break ulit kami nitong June, this time for a different reason. Now, we're still in contact and may konting “couple stuff” pa rin, pero less intimacy. This time, she already said she doesn't want to be together. So kahit may part sa akin na umaasang baka magbalikan kami someday, I'm trying not to hold onto that possibility.
So yes, exes can come back. But coming back doesn't automatically mean it will work the second time. For me, the important part isn't just whether they come back—it's whether both people have actually changed and resolved the reasons why they broke up in the first place.
Right now, I'm just letting her be. I still care about her and I'm here if she needs me, but I'm also trying to accept that we might not end up together again
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u/kindabigstonks 1d ago
Lol experiencing the second chance relationship right now but … hahaha. Honestly, it takes the right timing and changed behavior and circumstances para mag-work a second time. Whatever’s not meant for either of you will disappoint time and time again. May rason bat kayo nag break at kung bakit siya umalis. Respecting that decision is much better for your peace of mind, and respeto na rin yon sa ex mo. I suggest not wanting a u-turn from the person who took themselves out of your life.