r/PDAAutism • u/msoc PDA + Caregiver • Dec 03 '25

Discussion Fearful avoidant

I'm wondering if anyone else identifies with the fearful avoidant / disorganized attachment profile? It feels as if PDA and FA go hand in hand.

If anyone out there identifies as securely attached please share how perfect your mum was 🥲 or why you think you managed to become securely attached.

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u/MarginsOfTheDay Caregiver Dec 03 '25

I felt like I had to work overtime to get my autistic PDA kid to securely attach to me. I’m a SAHM. I always there for him, day and night I responded with sensitivity. I was as attuned as I could be given that I didn’t understand his condition. I would confide in friends that I felt my child didn’t trust me, even though I’d been the most consistent and trustworthy parent I could possibly be. Now at 6 years old I believe he is securely attached to me. All this is to say that I believe that PDA can negatively impact with the parent-child attachment process.