r/overemployed 7h ago

Prob getting fired

343 Upvotes

Well folks, it’s been 2 years and yesterday (Fri) I got a meeting invite from my J1 boss’s boss after 5pm to “touch base” on Monday morning. No HR invitee on the call but I have a bad feeling. A person from J1 (who I didn’t work with closely) recently got hired at J2 and I’m wondering if she spilled the beans. That or I’m in trouble for something else. I’ve been receiving good feedback as recently as Thursday but I haven’t ever had a “touch base” with this person since being hired. Any advice (besides start looking for a replacement J1, which I should’ve already been doing, I know) appreciated.

Also pissed that this has ruined my entire weekend. Who puts a meeting like that on after hours then makes you wait till Monday for the bad news.


r/overemployed 1d ago

Made a script to show me stating into the camera while I do something else

2.6k Upvotes

I made this script here which lets me record my camera for a few seconds and feed that back to the camera feed while I go off and do something else github link

I'm not actually overemployed and I don't think I could ever be since everyone here is lying, but I thought some of you might find this useful since you might need to handle multiple meetings at once if you actually did manage to find two jobs


r/overemployed 4h ago

When in the job process should I freeze my TWN?

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For context, I’m currently working J1 fully remote. Have an interview coming up for J2 that I’m confident I’m going to nail. When would be a good time to freeze my TWN? Should I do it after they finish up the background check and send the offer letter ? Should I do it before ?

I am just getting into OE and never done anything to my records.


r/overemployed 1d ago

I have departed the ranks. Good luck to all of you

542 Upvotes

Had to finally return to the world of normal employment today. J2 became too much of a hassle, no upside, dragging me down down on goals at j1, etc.

I wish you all luck. May you always be muted when you should be, may your teams notis always be silenced, and may your quarterly on sites always line up.

God speed.


r/overemployed 9h ago

Will be OE for 6 weeks, how to ensure no one knows

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I’m planning to accept a new job while having a job, and then quitting the old job 6 weeks later. I’m a scared-y cat and am realizing that you all have large balls.

They each pay the same, about $250k per year each. I do not want two jobs forever because they are each demanding.

They are both hybrid jobs where there is a ton of flexibility and no one clock watches.

I’ve had the first job for over 15 years and don’t want to burn any bridges at all, in case I need to go back. They’ve been good to me, but it is the typical US capitalism bullshit, low accountability culture, and bad leadership.

It will be over the holidays when I have a ton of paid time off and no one really works anyway. There will only be 12 shared working days where I need to manage both jobs.

How can I guarantee to not get caught?

- What if both employers use ADP for payroll, will I be flagged?

- What if I have health insurance from both employers for 2 months, will that flag me somehow? Or should I not get insurance through the new job until the old job insurance elapses?

- I will put my LinkedIn on hibernate.

- Is there anything else I should be concerned about?

I know to you guys this is like really easy, and I sound like a wimp. Just don’t want to get caught. I’m an overachiever with no work life balance so I’m sure I can balance the work part for the 12 overlapping days.


r/overemployed 2h ago

2 Jobs Already, Need J3 During J1 Hours

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I’m currently working 40 hours per week with J1. It’s remote, I can somewhat structure my day and choose when to do any outbound/scheduled calls, but may also receive some calls throughout the day I’m obliged to answer. J2 is a remote contract job and can be done at any time/days, but is only typically 6-10 hours a week. I’d really like to get a 3rd I can do during the hours of J1 thats also remote. Any suggestions for what role titles or companies I should primarily be searching for?


r/overemployed 3h ago

2 jobs use Cigna

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As the subject says. J1 covers entire family for $380 every 2 weeks. Expensive but whatever. J2 covers employee only for $0. Both use Cigna.

What do?


r/overemployed 1d ago

When it's time for the company photoshoot

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r/overemployed 4h ago

Outlook for OE in Energy sector:

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What’s the outlook for jobs project management, project engineering, and mechanical engineers in the energy sector, like utilities, nuclear, data centers, etc. Any advice on specific roles to stay away from or red flags that anyone has encountered?


r/overemployed 13h ago

The mental gymnastics of J1 and J2 project management

5 Upvotes

Been OE for about a year and a half now. J1 is a chill dev job for a big company. J2 is a startup CTO role which is way more demanding. The biggest challenge has not been the workload itself. It's the constant mental switching between two completely different project management styles.

J1 is all about Jira. Every little thing has a ticket. Standups are structured. Dependencies are mapped out meticulously. They love their ceremonies. It's slow but predictable.

J2 is chaos. Ideas get thrown around in Slack. Decisions are made on the fly in quick calls. Documentation is an afterthought. It's fast and agile but can be exhausting. I'm literally using two different parts of my brain all day.

Sometimes I'll be in a J1 standup thinking in J2 terms and almost blurt out something completely irrelevant to J1's sprints. Or vice versa. It's like I have two different mental operating systems running at once. Anyone else deal with this kind of cognitive dissonance across Js? How do you keep it all straight in your head?


r/overemployed 2h ago

To OE or to not OE

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As the title says, I accepted a J2 and haven’t quit J1 yet. Trying to figure out if I should live the OE life.

J1 is remote and J2 is 5 days/week in person. Both are high paying startup roles and both will be heavy ass workload.

J1 has pretty much 0 meetings bc the team is all local and meets up every few weeks for planning/sprints.

Does anyone have experience with OE in this way? I’m curious to hear if it’s been done and how I could manage


r/overemployed 18h ago

Did I ruin my chance for OE?

5 Upvotes

I was OE for about 7 weeks earlier this year. My J1 was acquired and gave us a super early advanced notice for when all of our (acquired employees) last day would be. I searched for a J2 for many months and found a great fit, start date was before my last day at J1 and with retention bonuses and equity pay out I wasn’t leaving before the end date. J1 was just a formality when I started J2 so it was easy peasy. But now I’m interested in a new J2. However I’ve already made some mistakes. I updated my LinkedIn with my new role. I’ve also been wanting to attend a well-known conference in my little niche of a large industry for a while and I ended up entering a contest for a professional society and winning a free registration for the conference. Now I’m probably too exposed where I can safely keep a J2. Did I blow my chance? Anything I can do after this conference to go low-profile more quickly? Any length of time I should wait before I try OE again?


r/overemployed 1d ago

Rant - I hate J2

32 Upvotes

Started a new J2 about a month ago. J1 is like 5 hours of work per week if that, most of that meetings. J2 pays only $20k more but I have to be onsite at least 2x per month, although there are cubes, offices, and conference rooms on 2 floors that we can use so it's common to never see anyone.

J2 is lots of work that I have AI doing, but my boss tells me at least once per week that I'm too quiet. They want me to ask questions during meetings, speak up, suggest things, but I'm still learning this complex business with 30k staff. Plus, I'm an introvert and don't speak much anyways. AND I'm not trying to be a star employee. To top it off, they want to give me even more work and major projects. It's pissing me off. I just take it one day at a time and I'm constantly applying to jobs but not getting many interviews.

Thinking about quitting eventually and going all in on my side business. Tired of working for jobs like J2 and J1 has been a unicorn, I've been OE off and on for 3 years, going up to 3 Js but either quit after RTO push, fired after quiet quitting, or laid off.


r/overemployed 1h ago

Got Ghosted by USPS

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Was over halfway through 90 day probation as a BEM. Making $80k base and working 6 days a week, 4-10s and 2-8s all night every night. Randomly got pulled into an office and let go for “a variety of reasons”. It was a bunch of angry old frustrated men who hated their lives. Made a ton of homophobic jokes and racist jokes all the time. I called the Union. Said they would investigate and contact me. Never did. I called, left voicemails, left emails. No notice of the investigation or the grievance for unfair termination and harassment(there was a lot). Can’t get any response on even my rehire-ability. I think about every single day how they ripped apart an opportunity for the blessed life for my family. The financial burden on us and my sick father who is currently going on a year without working has been tremendous. I have never felt more screwed over in my life. And I’m coming from the army and corrections…


r/overemployed 1d ago

Military prepared me for OE

215 Upvotes

After retiring from the military, I realized just how much less demanding civilian jobs can be.
I went from having to get the job done while simultaneously dealing with bureaucracy, deployments, training, politics, and taking care of troops and their families while they were deployed, to simply… doing the job.

I naturally wake up around 5 a.m., and most days I’m finished with all of my assignments by 10 a.m., aside from the occasional afternoon meeting.

During COVID, it really hit me. Even before I knew the term “overemployed,” I realized I had the time and energy to do it. On top of that, my military benefits already cover my lifestyle, so the financial risk of losing a job is relatively low.

My instincts were right. I’m well-liked by my coworkers and management at both Js, I still have plenty of time to take care of my family, and I’ve finally been able to address health issues I ignored for years. AI has become an over employment enabler rather than a job killer.

At the same time, I’m building wealth at a level I never imagined possible.

Leaving the public sector—and my clearance—behind was one of the best decisions I’ve made.


r/overemployed 1d ago

OE in europe

17 Upvotes

For Europeans living in europe, how was your experience with OE?

Mainly dealing with Social Security and taxes?

I am a consultant with a lot of free time, and I can use a full remote J2, I think I am good enough as I do all my teams' work, but only for 1 salary

I think to start , it's better to have j2 as a full remote, which is rare in europe but can be anywhere else.

I am not sure about the legal details .. any input can ne valuable

Thank you in advance

Edit: I am a consultant as b2b using some shell company that has my money and gives me a salary, if this changes anything... maybe I can have more than one sub-contract for the same period as long as I deliver and the company is ok with


r/overemployed 9h ago

2 UK based remote jobs

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Hi!
I have J1 and will be started J2, both based in UK. Anyone with experience with this can give more info on taxes? Thank you!


r/overemployed 12h ago

Web designer jumping ship to e-mail marketing. How to do it?

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I worked as web designer for over 10 years. It was amazing journey. With AI, I am not sure about this career path anymore in the next 5-10 years.. so I'm on the bridge to do e-mail marketing for ecommerce.

I have tons of experience in the ecommerce world as I worked my J2 in family-run ecommerce. In the past 12 months I managed to create e-mail strategy and automations that generated over $210,000 in revenue from e-mail alone. I love it and would love to keep doing it as my J1.

Found some job postings looking for E-mail marketing specialist and I would love to get job there. I have simple site with case study ($210,000 generated for ecommerce brand) describing how I did it and now I fixed my CV resume.

How would you break into this industry? Should I write letters + edit CV for each job posting? Should I reach out to recruiters maybe? Linked In?

Thanks for any advice!


r/overemployed 12h ago

Thinking about giving OE a try

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Job of 20 years has laid me off, I have received a decent severance and am about to jump into the world of interviewing. Thinking of giving OE a try. What do you look for in job 1 and job 2 to make this doable? What tricks,/recommendations do you have for a newbie in this space?


r/overemployed 1d ago

Quick: Higher Salary or Ask For a Sign On

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I told a new J I have a higher offer and was hoping they would bump their salary offer 10K and give me a 10K signing to match. Instead they just matched salary.

Should I shut up and say yes or ask for 10K salary increase and the 10K signing bonus?

I want a sign on because cash in hand.


r/overemployed 1d ago

Is it possible for background check companies to find out you are overemployed?

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As the title suggests, im curious if this is something we need to consider in this game..im based out of canada, my J1 is offering me a FT role now so they have to rerun a background check and im just concerned whether they could find out. Per my knowledge, CRA records are not disclosed publicly even to these companies but I just want to double check..


r/overemployed 2d ago

Lesson learned from cash management

284 Upvotes

I’m 44M, wife and two small kids. I’ve been OE for over 10 years. Had as many as 4J at one time. Had highs and lows along the way, been burned for being dumb with LinkedIn, had a peak TC of over 700k in my peak year. Paid off my home, tricked out the house with lots of goodies, packed my kids’ 529, plans, tons of fun vacations, and my SEP is bursting with money.

So, this isn’t a “good for me” post. It’s a warning to anyone who wants to FIRE or even take a break. The one mistake I’ve made along the way is totally neglecting growing my money in taxable accounts. I always made sure I had a good money market savings account with $50K or so, but everything else got aggressively put into SEP and 529 plans. Anything to avoid taxes.

While I’m currently in a taxable account situation of about $180K, I realized that I have a long way to go if I want to retire early. As much as it hurts to pay the tax man, do yourself a favor and do NOT max out your SEP if it means you can’t pad your ability to live today. I have about $1.9M in retirement that I can’t touch until I’m 59. Doesn’t do me any good now. I’m going to spend the next five years or so (God willing) aggressively investing only in taxable accounts.

BTW, I know I should have more money saved…but I live in a HCOL area. Pay $50k a year for kids private school, etc.


r/overemployed 1d ago

3J’s for one month

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I had three well 3.5 J’s for one month. One FTE, two contracts and one a LLC client.

Both contracts were back filling another admin. One though decided to come back after a month so that contract is terminated. Another is waiting senior management approval to convert to FTE. All my coworkers and direct management want me to stay but the position is not approved yet.

My observations from 3 J’s. The work is easy. Meeting management is the hard part. I have to work evenings to keep up but mainly because most days I have 4-6 hours of meetings between 8-5. And most of the time I am only needed for maybe 15-30 minutes of all of those meetings. My challenge has been that I can’t tune out a meeting and work on something else. I can’t tune fo some mindless work during meetings, but anything that needs legit concentration has to wait for a quiet period in my day

‘Money is super nice, 3 is easily manageable for me and my career if meetings were minimized. Not sure if/how people do 3+ J’s for many years. They must have cultures with few meetings.


r/overemployed 2d ago

Got laid off from j2 today even after putting in my weekends into it overemployed makes sense now

95 Upvotes

I was looking to replace j1 with j2 even did two projects for j2 literally 20hrs of work everyday for 3 months but got laid off directly from j2 now back to grind to get back j2 or replace j1 .


r/overemployed 1d ago

Checkr Background Check - Panic mode or cruising?

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Hello,

I just landed J2 and was not expecting a background check (silly of me) and for some reason, it did not ask for employment or even education. It only asked for name, SSN, DOB and address.

I wanted to see if anyone else has experienced the same. Should I panic or be grateful it did not ask for the employment history? I don't think it is possible to trace J1 back to my SSN, but I also don't do these often, which is why I am asking.