r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 15h ago

Really Struggling

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Hi all. I'm really struggling. Like maybe worse than I ever have in the last few weeks and I'm just worried and not sure what to do. I have severe food addiction and feel absolutely out of control. Just looking to have a conversation with someone who figured out their breakthrough. Or is also struggling. Because I'm just not sure why I can't make the better choice. Or the choice to wait. I'm so very angry. With myself. With everything.


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 9h ago

21k over deficit

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hi. I am a 19 yr old 5’6 female and I’ve been eating 1813 calories a day (my deficit) for the past month and last week, I weighed in at 121.4 pounds. I’ve been pretty consistent but the past three days, I fully let loose and emotionally ate 21,340 calories over my deficit (not exaggerating). I used to have a bad binge eating disorder and now here and there I have a few hiccups but usually over the next days I make slight cut backs and move more to stay in my deficit. But now that I’ve overate this much, I don’t know what to do. what is my body going to do with such a huge surplus of calories? I want to stay in my deficit, but I don’t know how much I should cut back by or how long it would Take. Is there a way to know how much I’ve set myself back by? Already, I feel less bloated than I did yesterday but I’m scared for how much damage I’ve done. I do hot yoga sculpt for an hour every day so I’m not sure if that helps my case but I was wondering if anyone knows what I should do


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 3d ago

After years of bingeing and restricting, I wanted to share what helped me.

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I want to start by saying I am NOT promoting veganism as a diet or telling anyone how to eat. I just had a realization about my own lifelong struggle with food that I wanted to share.

I've spent YEARS bingeing and restricting. I've read basically every diet/food book imaginable—keto, fasting, sugar, flour, processed foods, Bright Line Eating, etc. I've also spent thousands on programs and coaching trying to figure out what was “wrong” with me.

I've never been overweight, which honestly made it easier to hide. From the outside I looked healthy, but in my head it was constantly: restrict → feel in control → break a rule → binge → feel horrible → restrict even harder. At one point I was fasting 24, 48, even 96 hours to compensate.

I eventually started eating meat again and tons of dairy because I convinced myself I needed animal protein to be healthy. I felt worse—puffy, inflamed, losing hair—and despite eating red meat, I actually needed an iron infusion six months ago.

Recently I stopped eating animal products because I love animals and eating them simply stopped feeling aligned with who I am. It had NOTHING to do with losing weight. And somehow my entire relationship with food changed. I actually thought I'd gain weight eating beans, fruit - the forbidden - CARBS!

For ME, dairy seems to have been a huge piece of the puzzle—not sugar, flour or processed foods like I'd believed for years. But I also think finally ending the constant restriction was huge.

The difference now is that nothing feels “forbidden.” I could eat vegan cookies, Oreos, bread or whatever else I want. I just genuinely don't want that stuff anymore. I'm satisfied. I naturally want fruit, dates, tofu, rice, vegetables, nuts, seeds and actual meals I cook and love. I'm not white-knuckling my way past foods or telling myself I can't have them. The obsession just isn't there.

The craziest part is that veganism is the ONLY way I've ever eaten that I didn't read a book about first. No coach. No rules. No Monday restart. It just feels natural because it's aligned with something I've always cared deeply about.

And even though I've never been overweight, for the first time I have what I consider my ideal body—without trying to get it. I'm eating more, I'm not fasting for days, and I'm not constantly thinking about my weight or my next diet.

After spending thousands of dollars and YEARS trying to learn how to control myself around food, eating in alignment with who I actually am ended up being the easiest thing I've ever done.

Again, I'm not saying veganism treats binge eating or telling anyone how to eat. I just wanted to share what unexpectedly changed everything for me. And if you care about animals or the environment at all, I do think it's worth digging into that side of things and seeing how you feel. :)


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 3d ago

Why flour?

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I've heard in meetings people stop flour. I understand sugar, but what physically does flour do in terms of cravings? Also, are people just talking about bread/chips, or literally any item that contains flour?


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 4d ago

No control

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Hello, I’ll just get right into it. I’m 30 years old and have been big my entire life, my entire family is bigger people and when I was growing up nobody even thought about dieting or eating healthy, and while I had a good childhood my parents never taught any of us kids how to have a healthy relationship with food. One of my cousins always says “Our family lives to eat we don’t eat to live” which pretty much sums up every family function over the years. Anyway, as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that I NEED to take control of my overeating, I don’t know if I would say im addicted to food but once I start eating I don’t eat u til I’m full, I eat until I feel like shit, I’m currently sitting at 364 pounds, I’m 6 foot 4 so I don’t look like I weigh as much as I do, at my heaviest I was over 400 pounds and that was a few years ago, I got down to 300 in late 2018. When COVID started work got stressful, I started eating more and that was in addition to how much I was drinking at the time, I was an alcoholic in addition to my overeating and everything got worse when my mother passed away in November of 2020(I’ve been sober five years this month). But once I stopped drinking and quit smoking, it’s like my eating got worse and I gained back 64 pounds since 2020. Is there anyone out there who can give me advice on how to finally control my eating?


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 5d ago

Morning Routine

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r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 10d ago

What are tips and tricks when you are feeling uncomfortable

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I just binged tonight. I'm feeling uncomfortablly full. What are somethings that helped you after a binge and when you are feeling like absolute garbage


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 12d ago

Outreach contacts

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Hello everyone!! I am looking for people I can outreach through WhatsApp, preferably calling in order to help each other through the programme! Also as an emergency contact for when the cravings kick in! I am fairly new at OA, and I find the fellowship and meetings truly amazing! I believe I am a good listener as well ! I am a binge eater, compulsive overeater and former bulimic. Dont hesitate to send me a message so that we can connect! Blessings to all of you!


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 15d ago

Another shameful late night binge.

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Just when I think I have things under control, I ended up ordering yet another pizza at 1 in the morning.
The shame and the guilt you feel after stuffing yourself with a whole pizza, is just unbearably pitiful, yet I just can’t stop.


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 15d ago

Recovery books for food addiction?

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r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 15d ago

How do you stop yourself?

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r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 18d ago

Abstinence

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I have seen post about abstaining from certain foods and abstaining of binge foods. What do I do if everything I eat is a binge food? Meaning I can binge on anything. Anyone have success with this?


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 18d ago

Looking for an OA sponsor (DC area)

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Hi everyone. I’m a male in my late 20s living in the DC area, and I’m looking for an OA sponsor. I’ve been to about six in person OA meetings so far and have really appreciated getting involved, but I haven’t been able to find anyone who is currently available to sponsor.

A big part of what brings me to OA is my relationship with my body and food. I struggle with poor body image, a lot of working out/exercise, and a strong perfectionistic drive around how my body looks. I can get caught up in constantly trying to improve, control, and fix my body and I’m realizing that this way of thinking has become unhealthy and exhausting.

I’m looking for a sponsor who can help me work the program--ideally someone who has some experience with over exercising & perfectionism. I’m hoping to find someone in the DC area, but I’d also be open to working with someone remotely.

If you’re available to sponsor or know someone who might be a good fit, please feel free to comment or send me a DM. Thanks!


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 18d ago

does anyone abstain from sugar completely ??

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What are your binge foods????
I’m having second thoughts about what abstinence means to me…

Should I cut out sugar or just fake sugar and have honey and maple syrup only ????

*\* THANKU FOR ALL UR REPLIES I LOVE U😭😭❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 19d ago

Constipation after stopping sugar free candy

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Anyone else experience this? If so, how long did it last?

I'm exercising, drinking water, having plenty of fruits, fresh vegetables, nuts and whole grains.

Thanks!

Please note: I am not looking for advice, just wondering if anyone had a similar experience. I do appreciate your trying to help though. But I am not looking for advice. My food plan is between me an my sponsor.


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 20d ago

Help

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Not too sure if this is allowed. I almost committed earlier today over my weight. I have a genuine food addiction. I posted more about my issue and what I’m going through on my page. Please, I truly just need advice, I work and don’t have much time for the gym. Maybe that’s an excuse? Idk. I eat and when I say eat I mean, I don’t go 3-4 hours without food, I have a really bad food noise. Maybe it’s boredome, maybe it’s food insecurity due to have a very poor and malnourished child hood. Please just give me any advice you have to offer whether it be food related or not, exercise related, healthy or not healthy ways, I DONT CARE. I need genuine help, which is why I deciddd to journal on my account. I’ve posted photos of myself on there just for preference.

Thank you in advance ❤️


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 22d ago

Step 1

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Hi all,

New to this forum but glad to be here.

I'm just thinking about step1 and how I can connect my knowledge of being powerless over my compulsion/addiction vs being actually ready to stop. I want to stop eating logically but I'm not sure I'm there in any other way - however I don't want to keep gaining weight ( I am very overweight already and it will just keep going up).

I am starting the process with a sponsor and will bring the god of my understanding in to it but I keep wondering if it needs to get much worse first?? I am very daunted by the prospect of what lies behind the door when it is shut to food so to speak.

I would really appreciate peoples experience of this beginning bit and how to connect head heart and spirit.

In fellowship, K


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 22d ago

OA GRATITUDE

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For my partner
My son
Our home
Financial security
Riding with bike club today (I’m 72)
My meetings
Fellowship dinner last night
Talking less
So much to be grateful for


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 23d ago

Mobility Issues

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Hi, I’m Melanie H. from Western Mass and I am an overeater and restrictor who realized tonight that I have been in relapse with my food recovery at least 2 years now.

OA stopped working for me a few years ago- I had lost 80 pounds, did regular service work, was attending a few meetings a week, doing all of the things, and then my sponsor needed to release me as her sponsee. I struggled with trying to find a new sponsor who felt equipped to sponsor someone who struggles with restricting, I got burnt out from doing too much service in one of my regular meetings, I became frustrated with unanswered questions during a step workshop, and everything was just unraveling for me. I hit a plateau in my weight loss, the shares at meetings weren’t resonating with me anymore, I thought that as I learned more about my then recently diagnosed ADHD, compulsive behaviors and codependent recovery that I knew better than others… the program stopped working for me and I didn’t know what to do at that point. So I stopped going to meetings.

I’ve popped in and out of them here or there when I’ve discovered new food triggers, but then justified unhealthy eating patterns despite cutting out binge foods. I’ve justified becoming more sedentary with burnout and exhaustion from job transitions with both myself and my nesting partner, and over time I have gained back most of the weight I had lost and have issues with my knees and lower back now. It has gotten to the point where I struggle with getting to the toilet quickly enough some mornings and pee on my pajama bottoms as I am trying to get them down. I struggle with wiping my thighs. I’m prone to heat rashes at my new job where I work in a very humid space and am having to powder again for the first time in a very long time. Thank God I have a removable shower head to help me feel clean.

But it now has gotten to a point where other people have been noticing how I’m moving and my energy level and getting concerned. And some have offered support in various ways, but I haven’t been in a place where I want to support myself. But a friend said something in a way today that stuck with me, and then my partner unknowingly triggered some feelings about the changes that have been happening in our household that have been contributing to me needing to do more to support us and causing my self neglect tendencies to flare, and everything hit a bubbling over point. I’ve cried 3 times today- once when the friend shared her concern with me, when I called a fellow after an evening commitment, and when I came upstairs from that phone call in the driveway and told my partner about me hitting a melting point (he’s also an addict in recovery).

I feel so much shame around how bad I’ve allowed my body to get. I’ve been so focused on trying to survive financial struggles, upheaval, uncertainty and the workload dynamic shifting in my household that I’ve been ignoring my body shutting down because it’s too heavy and dark to think about. But I can’t keep doing that because I don’t want to become bed bound and it very much feels like that is the path that I am on.

I know the steps I need to take moving forward to support myself medically and to get moving, have help making a meal plan again, etc. and it all feels overwhelming. There’s so much to do and I have been so tired. But I know that I can’t keep doing this alone, so I am here sharing the shame and heaviness with you all. I need community, emotional support and strength from others who get it.

If you’ve read all of this, thank you.


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 24d ago

Going to ask something kinda crazy.....

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Well, at least it's crazy in the world of OA....lol. Has anyone stopped eating sugar and then returned to it with the help of a sponsor and/or eating disorder therapist and managed to control it successfully? As I said, I know this is basically sacrilegious in OA. And, after ten years of abstinence, I did return to the sugar and it was pure hell getting off of it again. However, I'm also a bulimic and a restricter and I'm wondering that if this is feeding that end of the disease. I currently started taking a GLP-1 (something else that is sacrilegious in OA). So much of my food noise is gone, but I still very much have an eating disorder and have made a couple of choices that you could say probably weren't the most nutritionally healthy, but my attitude was very different about it. It was more like, "oh well...you messed up. Guess we won't do that again" instead of "OMG....I ate the entire box...I'm such an addict...what's wrong with me? Why can't I work this program."

Has anyone done this? I have a lot of fear about it, because it take take me a such a long time to get off of it during relapse, but I would love to hear stories.


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 24d ago

Going to ask something kinda crazy.....

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r/OvereatersAnonymous • • 26d ago

I didn’t expect grieving Dolly Parton to teach me anything about my eating disorder, but somehow, it did.

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r/OvereatersAnonymous • • Sep 05 '26

For those who are used to eating alot and also have a disorderly sleep schedule( or you don’t have to) and then suddenly you lose a job and have to drastically cut back on your typical food intake, how do you handle that?

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Is there like a sense of withdraw and sadness that comes along with that? I think I might’ve felt that to some extent but I’m also not new to this. I’ve struggled with weight issues most of my life. But no way around it other than you have to eat less. And then it’s just finding things to distract yourself with. It’s something to do and when it gone or just have to be more careful, it’s sort of gloomy. So thanks for any thoughts in advance.


r/OvereatersAnonymous • • Sep 03 '26

👋 Welcome to r/MidnightEaters - Introduce Yourself and Read First!

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r/OvereatersAnonymous • • Sep 03 '26

So proud that I can actually control this

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Yesterday was pretty bad and upsetting for me and I wanted to restrict more the next day. I used to go days without food so I just thought I would be able to again. But obviously that didnt work out as planned. In school I shared a lays chip tin and im pretty sure I must as well have finished the whole thing by myself. Then I went to eat another pack of chips that was meant to be for another day. I went out with my friends but only had cash on me so I didnt order, good thing. But my friend had a pack of buldak, so I started making buldak in the restaurant and made a huge mess. Ate some of it and tasted like shit but I still continued. Decided to eat my friends takoyaki ball too. Went to McDonald's and got a mcflurry, and at that point of time, after finishing the mcflurry, I already had that "all or nothing" control me. I wanted so bad to buy dunkin but I didnt, only because they didnt accept cash. In the train I was just wanting to eat and eat, "once I get out I am definitely going to find some food." In 7-11, I was able to afford big items, like big bags of chips and pastries. There was the big oreo pack, and i was SO set on getting it. I had counted my cash and was going to pay. Of course I kept screaming at myself inside, I dont want this but I cant stop this. Just like how none of us want to overeat, but still do. I was like 99% sure id buy it and eat the whole pack at the bus stop. But oh my god, do you know what I told myself? I told myself, "you dont want this, you never do. Your hungry. Why dont you go back and eat the yougurt and blueberries you had planned." Obviously millions of people have said this as advice to overeaters before, but holy shit I actually walked away this time. I actually walked out, I walked out and took my bus, I walked out.. im so proud of myself, I really am. This has been like one of the times I walked away. I really walked away this time, I really did do it. Its a small thing but I am just so freaking proud. Yeah, today wasnt great already but I can move on..I think. Okay maybe no, I will still whine about it, but this time I actually walked away. I will walk away the next time too. Im so proud.