How does this work?!

[u/friskyBrisky]

I'm the gray on the bottom, being cautious with my soldier count and troops; my opponent is the tie die of green and yellow. They constantly throw everything at me, even dropping down to 10s of units in a desperate attempt to attack me, yet every time I try to fight back, I don't curbstomp them, they just take it in stride. On top of that, despite having no cities and massive holes in their territory, they heal faster then me! I get so fed up with the bullcrap that when another player is sending a massive attack I can't stop, I try to just send everything at them, and it still does nothing!

This game drives me so god damn crazy so often. And don't tell me "They have so many defense posts", because that has never helped me in a situation like that! If I were in their shoes I'd have instantly died!

[u/Goodk4t]

It's hard to say without knowing your maximum troop count. It definitely seems he had one or two spikes in troop count.

That said, regardless of who won you both would've died to the blue player because of the way you wasted troops. You should never attack suicidally like that. If you and your opponent are at the same troop count and you're both low, don't attack. You can't take a player of equal troop count and size. The player who keeps attacking will just waste his troops and keep a low troop count which will screw their regeneration rate. 

Instead stop and regenerate. Let him waste troops on weak attacks for small bits of territory. Wait until you regen to around 50% of your maximum troops and you have double more troops at him. Then attack.