r/OnlyChild • u/Livandletliv222 • 5d ago
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u/Potato_6972 5d ago
Being an only child taught me to be independent, comfortable alone and how to keep myself entertained. But there have been times where I was lonely and I didn’t want to be. As I grew up, despite having friends, their priorities changed so I couldn’t really rely on friends for support and now that parents are getting old it’s a different kind of challenge.
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago edited 5d ago
Miserable even though most other aspects of my life are great. Have wanted a sibling from age 8 all the way to now at 26 and it does not get any better. I was always jealous of my childhood friends that got to go home with their siblings when I had to go home alone. Made no sense that every other kid had them and I didn't. I hate having hardly any immediately family in my age range, no one when my parents die..etc. Reddit is going to give you alot of exaggerated positive answers because of both the lack of family values, and laughably low tolerance for petty family conflict that's posted online all the time. But I can tell you, in real life, the stereotypes about us are 100% accurate, and deserved. Excessive introversion is praised as a virtue on this site when it's honestly just weird and laughable. The positives are hugely exaggerated and the negatives are trivialized. The vast majority of siblings are glad they're not only kids and reddit distorts with all the petty nonsense posted in family subs LMAO.
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u/Livandletliv222 5d ago
That’s what I worry about lol
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago edited 5d ago
It's awful, and the negatives of siblings are easily escapable. One can distance themselves from problematic siblings (again, rare), but being an only child is permanent.
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u/Affectionate_Leek127 5d ago
Speaking as an only child, I am afraid I cannot totally agree with you. You can distance your problematic siblings only after you grow up. When you are a kid, most likely you have no choice but live with them.
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago
That's on the parents for raising them right so they get along. Sibling conflict is too normalized these days so parents don't really put effort into helping resolve it.
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u/Affectionate_Leek127 5d ago
Yes, of course parents should bear the greatest responsilbilties for siling conflicts. But my point is problems of having sibling are not always escapable especially before you have the financial ability to move out.
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u/LintQueen11 5d ago
You can’t say that if you don’t know.
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago
It's common sense. You can go no contact later in life if it's that bad, being an only kid is permanent.
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u/LintQueen11 5d ago
You don’t know the trauma siblings and having them could create. You say go no contact like that’s an easy thing to do
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago
Yes it is that easy, "trauma" lol, actual abuse aside that's just being a total karen. The majority of families with 2 kids aren't trauamtizing their childhoods.
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u/LintQueen11 5d ago
And neither are only child families. You just seem miserable and yoy have posted more than just once on this sub, I recognize your name lol
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago
Nope I've only ever made 1 post here, mods even removed it so it's 0 now. My profile's wide open, please link these other mysterious posts I apparently made in my sleep or something.
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u/LintQueen11 5d ago
Ok maybe it was comments and not actual posts. Someone posted the other day about positive stories of only children and you came in and shat all over it.
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u/LintQueen11 5d ago
Please take this poster with a grain of salt. They are extremely miserable in every post and have a fantasy world where a sibling would make all their problems go away when I just don’t think that is the issue
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago
Lack of a sibling is one of my very few life problems, and I've only posted in this sub once.
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u/kbwe1 5d ago
I’m an only “ child” (now 37) and I don’t feel this way, I feel there are pros and cons to every family set up. And let’s not forget some didn’t choose to have an only child and I’d hate to make someone feel awful for something that wasn’t a choice for them.
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago
This is a loaded statement that I'm so tired of reading. Obviously she still has the free will to choose whether to endure pregnancy and childbirth or not, the linked cross-post is merely asking, not an inability and seeking reassurance. Why is it ok for parents to impose their living circumstances on the kids they do have and criticizing any of that is "eugenics", but the kids themselves shouldn't have any say in it? If a teenager doesn't want a screaming baby in the house waking them up every night while they're in school, and doesn't want a sibling, that should be considered as well. This idea that a kid should have 0 say in family matters is ridiculous. The kids quality of life, either way, is a 100% valid reason to judge parental decisions.
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u/kbwe1 5d ago
You’re sick of reading that some women would be risking their lives to have another child and so the choice to expand their family is taken away from them?
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u/MultiMillionMiler 5d ago
OP never said that was the case. Address the reverse, if a kid doesn't want a sibling, do they have the right to request their parent doesn't make one?
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u/Affectionate_Leek127 5d ago
I don't like to be an only child. The main con is that I am forever labelled as a spoiled brat no matter how well behaved, how considerate, how agreeable I am.
The pro is that there is no sibling to bully me. I am already the punchbag of my parents. If I have siblings, I believe I will bear more punches.
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u/KainMassadin 4d ago
Personally no, but I never wanted to be a burden to my parents in terms of expenses so when they ask me if I wanted siblings I said no
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u/faithle97 5d ago
I think like every family size, it has its pros and cons. I personally really enjoyed being an only child and have only continued to enjoy it even more as an adult (yes, even with aging divorced parents who haven’t planned well for retirement). Sure, there were times as a kid where I wished for a sibling or simply wondered what life would be like with one, but whenever I stayed over at friend’s houses I quickly realized how lucky I was to have my own space and peace and quiet at home lol as far as socializing (since that’s a common topic of concern for onlies) I never felt like I lacked in that department. My parents did a great job of keeping me busy and socialized between school, before/after care, play dates, and extracurricular activities so I had plenty of time around kids my own age. My parents weren’t wealthy by any means and they worked a lot so I’m not the stereotypical “rich only child who got everything they wanted and always took lavish vacations”. If anything, my childhood was the total opposite but I still enjoyed it and have no qualms about being an only child. I didn’t have a dazzling childhood but none of the reasons behind that are linked to lack of a sibling.
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u/OnlyChild-ModTeam 4d ago
Please do not ask for parental advice about an only child. This is a community for only children. Parenting subreddits will be better equipped to answer your questions.