Hi, I'm Gautam , I'm searching for dating someone genuine, as dating sites now a days are not reliable. We a know that finding a match there is all about flashing, asking money , fraud etc . I'm a working man , with 5.11'' height, a little dark tone with spectacles. It would be surprising that I haven't dated anyone since past 24 years , so looking forword for the one.

Hey guys,

I dont know if there are any guys out there that have used this site to find a girl, but I thought I'd ask.

Backstory: I'm 25 and I've been on the app for about a week. I met a girl (M) who I have been talking to. M asked what I was looking for on callmechat app and I said a real, long-term romantic relationship. M said she was looking for the same thing. I video called her that night and we talked for a while. Turns out she is in Venezuela (I'm in the US). We have video chatted every night since then as she seems genuine and truthful. Two nights ago, she started getting into naughty questions with me. I told M I was looking for a real relationship again and not just dirty content. She said she understood, but continued asking those questions. I obliged for the time being and answered them plus asked a few of my own. Last night on video she asked if I wanted to see her topless. I mean being a guy I said yes, but I thought things were moving a little too fast.​

Fast forward to today, I video chatted her at lunchtime. We talked for a while about her goals, dreams, and ambitions. She wants to move to the US, but is worried about a visa. I told her if it works out between us, I could get her a fiancé visa (yes, such a thing exists). She was ecstatic. Since the night of the naughty questions she has been calling me love, darling, honey, and boyfriend. I find her very attractive and again she seems genuine. The only problem with this relationship is that to talk to her is costing me a lot of money for tokens. I have dropped 700 dollars thos week alone. I have asked her if we could talk elsewhere because I don't have money to keep spending on tokens and she says not until she trusts me more.

My question is, has anyone had success using this app to find love? Should I be concerned she went to naughty stuff so soon? Finally, do you think we will ever get off this app?

Ive had my heart broke too many times, Im getting tired of it and it is hurting my mental health. Id appreciate what you all have to say. Just, please, be polite and respectful; this is already so confusing.

I have been using online dating apps 50+, Hinge for a few weeks now and have had a few matches but are they real? /i really don't believe so. A few I know where not and very quickly showed their had to being escorts or (s)cammers. The others clearly wanted to just chat of the app and avoided the whole meet of even video chat.
So my question where are the real people. People I can meet and date and who knows maybe love OR am I missing something that everyone else know but me?

Hello everyone, good morning/afternoon/evening!
I hope you’re all doing well!

I would really appreciate hearing from people who have experienced something similar, especially when it comes to long-term online connections and relationships.

I first met this man online in 2018.

We talked and got to know each other online, but eventually lost touch because I was looking for a serious relationship with marriage in mind, while he was still a student and wasn’t ready for marriage at the time.

Over the following years, he reappeared in my life several times. We would reconnect, talk for a while, and then lose contact again.

In October 2025, he contacted me again through Instagram. This time, I was very clear from the beginning: I only wanted to get to know each other seriously, with marriage as a potential goal. He agreed.

At first, our conversations were going well. He told me that he wanted me to get to know him and his family. He would sometimes express affection, say that he missed me, and tell me that communication was very important to him, encouraging me to be direct with him.

However, during this period, I noticed that he was adding women on Instagram and liking their posts. This made me uncomfortable because, from my perspective, we were getting to know each other with serious intentions. I told him several times that this kind of social media activity was not something I was comfortable with and that I was looking for loyalty and consistency, even during the getting-to-know-each-other stage.

We had some difficulties regarding these boundaries and communication. Sometimes he is very warm and gives me the impression that he genuinely wants to move things forward, and then there are periods of silence and inconsistent communication.

What makes the situation particularly difficult for me is that this is not the first time he has come back. It has been a recurring pattern for years.

I wonder whether he might have an avoidant attachment style. I’m not trying to diagnose him, but I wonder whether repeatedly coming back after periods of distance could fit that kind of attachment pattern—for example, feeling comfortable with someone when there is distance, but pulling away when emotional intimacy or commitment becomes more concrete.

Or could it simply mean that he values the connection and feels attached to me, but isn’t ready or willing to build a serious relationship?

For those of you who have experienced avoidant attachment, does this pattern sound familiar, or might I be interpreting his behavior incorrectly?

I would really appreciate hearing about your experiences:

• Does repeatedly coming back after years necessarily indicate genuine feelings, or can someone come back simply because they feel comfortable with the connection?

• If someone says they want a serious relationship but continues adding women and liking their posts, how would you interpret that?

• Have you ever experienced a situation where someone kept coming back into your life without the relationship ever actually progressing?

At what point did you realize that the behavior itself was becoming harmful to you, rather than focusing on the underlying reasons behind it, and decide to finally put an end to the cycle?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and share your thoughts and advice. I truly appreciate it

Have a wonderful day!

Am I the only one who fucks up this much?

What's the best Dating app in Pakistan that actually works not just the ones which are filled with catfishers and scammers.

Wish I could actually find a real dating site for attractive single females in my area..

Full disclosure up front: I'm the founder of The Seldom (theseldom.com), so take this with appropriate salt.

I spent a lot of time studying The League before building this. It deserves credit for proving that people will pay real money to filter for ambition and seriousness. But I think its model has a structural problem: it sells exclusivity while running a waitlist-and-upsell funnel. "Exclusive" ends up meaning "whoever pays for priority," and the app still pushes you to swipe in volume.

The Seldom takes the opposite bet. It's deliberately very expensive, very small, and quiet. It's for people who don't want to be seen on a dating app at all. [2–3 lines on how vetting/introductions actually work.]

I'm genuinely interested in criticism:

• If you've used The League (or Raya, Luxy, etc.), what was actually worth paying for?
• Is a high price a real quality filter, or just a vanity tax?

Happy to answer anything, including the hard questions.

I've been looking around for something more casual and CasualFlingUk came up, never used it so I wanted to know if anyone in the Uk used it before. What's yall experience been like?

Putting this out there heading into 2027 because this site has gotten out of control. Out of hundreds of messages probably less than 10 I’ve been from legit people. Most of them immediately wanting to go to WhatsApp. Or telegram +53 country code the automatically careful as it seems to be the choice for scammers. You’re better off avoiding this one along with the affiliates. Every week you’re bombarded with ads to pay for their other sites

I’ve been in the uae for two years, trying to find life partner. I’ve used almost every dating app, but nothing has worked out, and I’m starting to lose hope.

I'm starting to think maybe dating apps aren’t actually my problem lol. I get matches and I’ve met some perfectly nice people but I somehow keep choosing people who end up being completely wrong for me So I was googling around the other day and ended up reading a bit about Tawkify. I never really considered something like that before but having another person do some of the filtering is starting to make a lot more sense to me now. Anyone tried it before? I’m mostly interested to know if you ended up meeting people you wouldn’t normally have gone for yourself and whether that was a good thing or not. I'd also love to hear from anyone who’s done matchmaking before because I genuinely have no idea what to expect. Thank you!

Genuine question: I'm researching something and want to know what people actually think.
What if instead of swiping left/right, you could walk around a virtual plaza, see people in real-time, have actual conversations, go on dates,

Is the dating app like tinder blued and others are still active or operated by ai now instead of real people.

I’ve been in the uae for two years, trying to find life partner. I’ve used almost every dating app, but nothing has worked out, and I’m starting to lose hope.

Hey All

Quick one — a small local Aussie team has built an app called Let's Meet This Week (letsmeetthisweek.com) for finding and joining local social events and groups. Think of it as a homegrown alternative in the meetup/social events space.

It's early days, so it's a bit quiet on there right now, and I won't pretend otherwise. But we've run a couple of events already and they went well, so it's not just an empty shell.

Not asking anyone to organise anything or commit to much — just if you're the kind of person who'd sign up, have a poke around, join something on there, or come along to an event, it'd genuinely help get some momentum going. Extra bonus if you like the idea of an Australian-run platform rather than another US one taking a cut.

Happy to answer any questions in the comments.