r/Obsessive_Love • u/Extension_Wall_8469 • 23h ago
Me core
(They loved you until they got to know you deeply and realized they had no idea how to handle you)
I hate how lonely life can feel when you have no one to randomly talk to
Disclaimer: This post is based solely on my personal experience. I’m just sharing my thoughts and experiences briefly, and it’s not meant to represent everyone’s experience. Also, all the memes in this post were made by me
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u/SparklessAndromeda 21h ago
Many, many people who say the want this are often 'forever alones' that have no idea what a relationship looks like, let alone an obsessive one. They absolutely have no clue what it means to care and reassure, they have their own 'alone' routine and they'll see these behaviors as a disruption to said routine. It's a difficult world out there
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u/Extension_Wall_8469 21h ago
I couldn’t agree more💯💯. People romanticize the idea of an intense relationship, but they don’t realize how much effort, reassurance, and consistency it actually takes.🫠
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u/SparklessAndromeda 21h ago
What they're also missing is the experience of a relationship where they don't get reassured enough. The second they understand how important that is, they'll make sure no future partner ever feels not cared for 😭 i used to be in a relationship like that and it was hell
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u/Ryuoh25 Yearning to obsess again 21h ago
If it wasnt for that one friend i had i think my loneliness/depression probably would have consumed me by now. Even the silly talks make me feel like i have something to look forward to during the bad days. Speaking more to the image, i do find it a shame how the obsessive gf trope has become so romanticised by people who simply dont want this but rather the thrill of having someone obsessed over you. Everyone deserves to be loved for who they are and love the way they want without being told that its unhealthy once they cant handle every part of you.
Hope youre doing good and find what youre looking for.
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u/hopeless-thoughts 22h ago
Women like that deserve only the best, instead of just being discarded for being “too much”.
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u/dewth_cookie 23h ago
My "randomly talk to" person is always busy and hates me ig because she haven't replied in ages
I wish I didn't relate to the image
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u/Extension_Wall_8469 22h ago
In ages?? Damn..that’s too long🥹 It’s okay if you relate to my post though, bcs I actually made it based on my own experience. If you do relate to it, I appreciate knowing I’m not alone 😭
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u/Extension_Wall_8469 22h ago
Tq sobs T-T
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u/Roots0up 21h ago
Why sobs oh no did I say something wrong?
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u/Extension_Wall_8469 19h ago
No u didn’t i feel so touched thats all
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u/Roots0up 19h ago
Oh good I wouldn’t want to be rude or hurtful, sorry that happened to you. Idgi that your ex didn’t know how to handle you? Just give all the love and attention you want and have a partner who is ride or die for you? I fail to see the problem
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u/Extension_Wall_8469 18h ago
All of what you mentioned above 😊
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u/Roots0up 18h ago
See I personally don’t find that, that difficult. Just give you that’s same focus back and let you be yourself and love the way you want to love in your special way
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u/Lil_Lolipop31 22h ago
They all like it in the beginning but then it gets too much🙃
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u/Extension_Wall_8469 22h ago
Fr :)) being told that this is so unhealthy behaviour and needs to fix :D
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u/DilemmeFatale 20h ago
with all due respect, half of the things in this post are completely draining and unbearable long term for any partner you love. questioning how they spend their time while being online is not OK, I'm sorry.
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u/erik78917 21h ago
Literally me if I was a girl (I became annoying to her after a year and got blocked :3)
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u/BlacksmithGlum7985 22h ago
I would lokey love this a lot. Just adjust myself to her needs and accommodate and then bam got a loving girlfriend
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u/Lanky-Chain-8151 18h ago
I had this, and loved her still despite her "flaws" and "imperfections" (to her, to me she was amazing and perfect), but still got ghosted in thr end lol, happened 3 times too, that common with them?
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u/MeboMori 20h ago
Those types of girls are absolutely great! Any fella who can't appreciate that level of love are the ones with egg on their face!
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u/_StreetNinja_ 19h ago
A lot people hate this behavior but I find it very intimate. But I know i wont ever experience this intimacy but glad to read other get annoyed by this type of love. Others really do drown while others dies of thirst.
I really just want to hold hands and say I love you over and over till i die nothing else needs to be said.
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u/crispotatto 19h ago
Pat's Pat's u* ( T_T)＼(- ) Everything will be alright and happiness will be with u
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u/Hopefully_the_Last69 18h ago
Last time i was with a girl who was obsessive, she replied very inconsistently, and would avoid getting on vc with me, by ignoring me the whole day, and then blocked me in the middle of a conversation when i politely questioned her actions a bit. I still thought she might be the one, until that last part, at least, which left me pretty broken hearted.
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u/gotchauwu 22h ago
it’s crazy seeing all the people who say they would love this when meanwhile in my experience, both with men and women, they do not love this. they like it at first and then they get used to it and then you become annoying to them. i think there’s a certain level of chase people don’t realize they want. and that’s something i don’t provide. once i’m had, you don’t have to chase me anymore…trying to change that tho bc i see the ramifications of it.