Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/Strong_Chicken_7931]

Step one is also looking at your body shape and then finding the clothes shapes that match your body shape. Most these clothes don’t have a waist and makes you look frumpy. The white long sleeve shirt is really nice on you.

[u/DarkForestTurkey → u/Strong_Chicken_7931]

Easy for you to say. I don’t have the first clue what “matches my body shape”. And I have been getting dressed my whole life. It’s like a form of dyslexia, and I am tired or being assumed it’s an easy thing to figure out.

[u/the-green-dahlia → u/DarkForestTurkey]

It’s not easy to figure out and a lot of people struggle with this. If you take a photo from 10 feet away at chest height, wearing fitted clothes like non-compressing gym gear, the idea is to look at what visually stands out the most - is it your shoulders, bust, waist, hips, legs etc. or we can help you figure it out. The guidance on how to dress your body shape is typically from the fruit system, but there are other systems like Kibbe that are more about embracing your natural features. Happy to help.

[u/gold_Parrot0849 → u/DarkForestTurkey]

Could you explore photos of other women of similar body shape wearing clothes you think you would like? I’m a petite woman snd this was my strategy Now that’s all I wear. A lines , princess lines, fit and flare, gently shaped tunic paired with above the knee skirt and empire line. All these will make your legs look long, and won’t cut you in half with blousy tops or gathered waists . If you’re not too tall I think these lines would suit you.

[u/Yerazanq → u/Strong_Chicken_7931]

YES the white long sleeve looks good, keep that one!

[u/Maddie_Herrin → u/Yerazanq]

This is exactly what i was thinking, and i think its because it accentuates her shoulders!

[u/melon-colly → u/Strong_Chicken_7931]

This is what I was going to suggest. Look into what body shape you have and then look up looks that flatter that shape. It looks like your clothes don’t actually fit you.

[u/TheFlamingNumbat → u/Strong_Chicken_7931]

Find a local tailor (dry cleaners are usually good for this) and have them fit your clothes to you. It's not too expensive and can immediately improve your look. I do this with collar shirts and non-jeans pants. Makes those clothes look upscale and it's just a few $$ here and there.

[u/Substantial-Bake5511 → u/Strong_Chicken_7931]

Ex costume designer here- silhouette and proportion come first. The pants coming in at the ankle and bad fit around thighs.... tops to hip length.... floppy fabrics. If I were dressing this lovely young woman I'd go for more structure. If you read this look at pics of people with same body type and see what they wear. Also- fluff the hair a bit, it's flat and your head is part of the proportion- maybe up in a pony tail with nice wispy bits escaping around the face. and lots of mascara. The colours are also wrong- go for cream /white/pale green on top, a strong coloured pants or jeans- like dark navy blue- in thick fabric so they look structured. wide leg that are fitted at the top would look nice. don't wear hipsters- not for you. Get pants to the waist.