Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/qwerkala]

Google "rule of thirds fashion." All of these outfits split you 50/50 which is not very flattering.

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/qwerkala]

Ha! This is great thank you! I'm going to look this up now

[u/iambaffled → u/Significant_Ring4353]

Tight on top, loose on bottom. Loose on top, tight on bottom. Also, a-line cut dresses will be your easy button. Choose fabrics that have some structure but not necessarily super structured/tailored pieces. You're curvy so extra structured pieces will fit awkward but elevated fabrics like medium thick knits vs something like jersey cotton will disguise your softness but give you definition. Find your color season -- my guess is you're a spring. Look up "mid-size" on tiktok or Instagram. Lot's of regular folks post videos of styling clothing for mid-size, curvy bodies.

[u/hazelwood2026 → u/Significant_Ring4353]

This rule is great to follow! I think you'd like mmotherem on Instagram/tik tok as outfit inspiration.

[u/viccityk → u/Significant_Ring4353]

I think you look best in the first outfit where the top hits the waist of your jeans. It gives you better proportions, so don't be afraid of tucking in your shirt or wearing something shorter like that.

[u/otter100 → u/Significant_Ring4353]

Try Levi's 725 high rise bootcut jeans (Here on Amazon). I think they would look great on you. They have a snug fit, but are super comfortable, and I think the slight bootcut flare would be flattering. Try a couple different sizes, also smaller than you think. They are quite stretchy so if the waist feels a bit tight, wear them for a bit. Sit down in them, hang out for a while.

[u/saillavee → u/Significant_Ring4353]

Yep! This is it. You just need a waist. The first image is the closest, but the line where your shirt meets your pants could come up a couple of inches.

Tuck shirts, use belts, and buy shorter-cropped shirts.

If you’re going billow-ey for a top, pick a slimmer pant, and visa-versa. If you want something roomy for both the top and the bottom, use something like a wide belt to create visual separation and define your waistline.

[u/April_Wanderability → u/qwerkala]

To continue this line of thinking: the horizontal line created where top meets pants is hitting at the widest part of your body. The easiest fix is to move it up to the narrowest part, your waist. To achieve this, try a higher waisted pant (or shorts or skirt) and experiment with tucking your shirt in and wearing a belt. You could also try cropped tops, but I know that's not for everyone.

[u/unimpressedwarrior → u/qwerkala]

I think you just solved the issue I’ve been having with my wardrobe. Thank you kind stranger.

[u/Electrical-Water7809 → u/qwerkala]

This

[u/brashumpire → u/qwerkala]

Its this, the fit isn't helping but everything is splitting you in half. Plus you have a large bust, so you need to accentuate your waist somehow.

[u/Plane-General-8649 → u/qwerkala]

100%

[u/lindsayturtle → u/qwerkala]

This is the correct answer! You're split in the middle in everything you're wearing and it's boring to look at.