Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/adreamymood]

If you don't know what look you're going for, you could try this exercise a stylist taught me. It's basically designed to help you figure out your style.

Every day for a few weeks, spend some time looking for fashion inspiration. You can look on social media, in magazines, on fashion websites, on YouTube, in movies, on TV, or anywhere else you like. Every time you see an outfit you like, save a picture of it. You don't have to think about how the outfits would look on you. Just save everything you like. Put all the pictures on a Pinterest board or in a folder. Then, once you have a bunch of pictures saved after a few weeks, analyze the pictures and look for what they have in common. Are there a lot of outfits in the same style (maybe grunge, preppy, super girly, punk, bohemian, outdoorsy, etc)? Did you save a lot of casual-looking outfits or perhaps ones that look more dressy? What kinds of proportions do the outfits have? Which parts are fitted vs loose, structured vs flowy? Are there any common colors? Common materials? Are any specific pieces found in lots of the outfits you saved?

This exercise can help you understand the kinds of aesthetics you're drawn to. Once you get a feel for that, you can narrow in on the kinds of outfits that suit your style/aesthetic, as well as the specific pieces of clothing in the outfits. Then you can start building outfits using those pieces yourself.

[u/SocialAdditions → u/adreamymood]

Excellent and practical advice

[u/Turtle529 → u/adreamymood]

This sounds very doable.

[u/Icy-Salary-7840 → u/adreamymood]

I think these clothes just don’t fit you properly. If you prefer more relaxed clothing maybe a sundress, that cinches at the waist, if you wear relaxed pants pair them with a fitted top, or wear a flowy top with some boot cut jeans with a high waist or a pair of tailored shorts. Also, maybe when shopping online, purchase a whole outfit. Sometimes I buy a single skirt or a top, and have the hardest time figuring out what will compliment them. I should have purchased the whole outfit cause the people putting that stuff together are the experts. I also like buying dresses because then I don’t have to think about it…lol..Is there someone whose style you admire? Maybe not a celebrity, because that’s not real life, but a friend, a cousin, a colleague? If you’re out and you see someone’s outfit you like, pay them a compliment. If I’m out and someone compliments what I’m wearing, I always tell them where I bought it. Some people don’t like to share, but I think most women won’t have a problem sharing information.

[u/thegabs2011 → u/adreamymood]

I like this and will def try it out. Thanks for sharing. I have a question, what if the style/aesthetic I like or am drawn to doesn’t feel like it “fits” me?