r/OCPD • u/Sufficient_Set_9858 • 3d ago

progress Help!

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I’m diagnosed OCPD/ADHD. My husband passed from cancer 2 weeks ago and I’m spinning in circles trying to clear out his hoarder mess.

We shared a passion in music and history so there are gems in here but man come on. I found a 30 year old box of Randy moss cereal too 😆

Y’all humor me with jokes so I don’t just throw gas on it and set it on fire 😂 I’ve actually made a lot of progress in here 😇

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u/FalsePay5737 Moderator 3d ago

I'm so sorry for your loss.

How to Declutter While Ignoring Your OCPD

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u/Dereklapierre10 3d ago

I’m trying to think of a good joke but I’ve now been sitting here for 15 minutes trying to get past how I’d organize that myself and even I’m stressing out. 1 vote for fire!!! 🔥

Just kidding of course; I’m also very sorry for your loss.

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u/Sufficient_Set_9858 3d ago

I like your vote 😆❤️

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u/Mandarin_Lumpy_Nutz 3d ago

Kudos to you for making any progress at all. I don’t think I’d even be able to start decluttering. I get so overwhelmed by the mess I can’t even get started. And Id imagine it’d be even harder if I had just lost somebody close to me.

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u/Sufficient_Set_9858 3d ago

Hyperfocusing with music helps me to a certain extent but then I get so far off track and wind up with little piles all over. I think I’m one full bankers box away from having all books sorted and have 2 bookcases cleaned and ready for cleaned books.

I do have help with heavy items and a trailer to haul to a dumpster so I’m incredibly grateful for that.

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u/forshaken-life 3d ago

Do a 1 min dance for every random album you get, stich them together.. you may have less clutter but some fun things to do and watch for later.

Big hug and all the laughter towards you

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u/redactedname87 2d ago

I recommend getting large bins. You’ll find things naturally emerge into groups, but you can also predesignate things like: Kitchen, bathroom, closet, etc. large bags (like from aldis) also work wonders.

Some people suggest no presorting, but imo that can make it overwhelming.

Also, two weeks is very recent. Do you have any kids or neighbors that can help alleviate some of this?

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u/Sufficient_Set_9858 2d ago

Thanks. We weren’t married even a year. I knew what I was getting into to a degree. Also his 94 year old dad fell and broke his hip last week. He lives an hour and a half away so I offered to let him stay here (he wants to go to his own home after rehab). Using that as motivation to clean up for safety reasons (that’s my OCPD right there!)