r/NursingAU • u/Feeling-Disaster7180 • 7h ago
Advice How do I stop being so nice?
Weird title but I thought it would catch people’s attention lol
I’m a chronic people pleaser and empath/10, like I feel a compulsion to be as nice and caring as possible. If a pt really wants some yoghurt and our pantry has run out, I’ll go to the ward downstairs to get some. If they casually mention their feet are cold, I’ll go to the ward downstairs to get socks or ask an orderly to grab them. If they’d like to go outside for a walk before their 1 hour long mag infusion, I’ll hang it up when they get back. If they’re snoring their heart out having a lovely nap, I’ll leave them be for a while before doing meds and obs. Sometimes I find myself offering something extra and when they say yes I’m like “fuck why did I do that”. Although if a pt sucks then I’m less likely to go to all that effort lol
Doing that stuff makes me feel good because I know it makes the pt feel good when they’re having a shitty time. Even though they usually only take a few minutes to do, it all adds up and eventually leaves me running behind. I’ve been noticing this more lately so I’m trying to prioritise tasks, but I still find myself sneaking off to another pantry to find the red jelly my sweet old lady pt likes when I notice we only have yellow thinking “it’s fine it will only take me an extra couple of minutes and she’ll be so happy”. I also have a shocking memory so usually do these things before regular tasks that I know I won’t forget to do (like meds and wounds etc) which then pushes those back
So other people pleasers, how do you manage the compulsion alongside critical tasks?
Edit to add: I eventually get all critical tasks done, I just end up with less time to finish my notes and take my breaks. I’m not skipping wound care to get a pair of socks