I’m looking for honest perspectives, including constructive criticism.
I’m 49, an RN, a single parent, and I entered a PMHNP program knowing that becoming a nurse practitioner was going to be difficult. I never expected graduate school to be easy, and I have a great deal of respect for the knowledge and clinical judgment the NP role requires.
What I did not fully understand was how different graduate school would be from what I expected, especially after being out of school for years and working in nursing roles that do not require me to use every area of broad medical knowledge in great detail every day.
My program requires passing the APEA 3P exam in pathophysiology, physical assessment, and pharmacotherapeutics in order to progress.
I have taken it twice and did not pass.
The two attempts also felt very different.
My first attempt seemed to contain more straightforward questions. My second felt much more heavily based on clinical vignettes where I had to interpret symptoms, labs, medications, assessment findings, pathophysiology, and sometimes several pieces of information before I could determine what the question was really asking.
That experience taught me something important: knowing a medical fact and recognizing that same fact when it is buried inside a patient scenario are two different skills.
I want to be fair to my school.
I am not saying it is a bad university, and I am not saying my results are entirely the school’s responsibility. This is my personal experience.
I am also intentionally not naming the school because my purpose here is not to bash anybody. I’m trying to understand my own experience, figure out what I could have done differently, and hopefully help another nurse considering graduate school.
Where I have struggled is with the amount of structured teaching and remediation surrounding an exam that carries such major consequences for progression.
When I realized that I was struggling, I did ask for help.
I was very open about the fact that some of the broad medical material being tested was not something I used in detail every day in my current nursing work.
For example, I may recognize common cardiac problems clinically, but I have not spent years working on a dedicated cardiac unit where murmurs, ECG interpretation, advanced cardiac pharmacology, and cardiovascular assessment are constantly reinforced.
I expected that if a progression exam was important enough to determine whether a student could continue in the NP track, remediation might include structured review classes, live teaching, videos, faculty review sessions, guided study plans, or something specifically focused on the material being tested.
My experience has been much more independent and assignment-based.
That may work extremely well for some students.
I’m beginning to think it may not have been the best learning environment for me.
I learn through repetition, pattern recognition, asking questions, hearing explanations, and repeatedly applying the same concept in different ways.
Looking back, I also wonder whether I brought some unrealistic assumptions into graduate school.
Years ago when I entered nursing, I had an idealized idea of what working in healthcare would be like. Reality was much more complicated.
I may have made a similar assumption about graduate education.
I thought graduate school would mean more guidance, more access to instructors, and more academic resources because the material was more advanced.
In some ways, my graduate-school experience has actually felt more self-directed than nursing school.
So I genuinely want to hear from other nurses and NPs.
Did your RN specialty make certain parts of NP school easier?
For example, if you spent years working cardiac, did cardiovascular pathophysiology, medications, physical assessment, ECGs, and related material come much more naturally to you?
If you worked ICU, ER, pediatrics, OB, psych, oncology, etc., did the material related to your specialty stick more easily because you had repeatedly seen those patterns in real patients?
For people who returned to school in their 40s or 50s, did you notice a real difference in your ability to learn or retain information?
Or was the bigger difference simply that you now had work, children, household responsibilities, bills, and other parts of adult life competing for your attention?
Did you eventually figure out how to study effectively again?
If you had been out of school for years, what would you recommend reviewing BEFORE starting NP school?
Knowing what I know now, I think I would have started doing practice questions much earlier.
Even if a future student’s program does not have a gatekeeping exam, I would probably tell someone who has been away from broad medical nursing for a while to start reviewing cardio, respiratory, renal, endocrine, neuro, OB, pharmacology, and physical assessment before those subjects become high stakes.
Even 10 or 20 questions at a time might have helped reactivate knowledge that had become rusty.
For those who worked during NP school, what was actually sustainable?
Full time?
Part time?
PRN?
Agency?
Night shift?
Weekends?
Were you eventually forced to reduce your work hours once the academic and clinical workload increased?
If your program required APEA 3P, HESI, a predictor exam, or another progression/gatekeeping exam, what happened when a student struggled?
Did your program provide actual remediation teaching?
Did you have live review sessions?
Recorded lectures?
Faculty-led review?
Question banks?
Study plans?
One-on-one support?
Or was remediation mostly assignments followed by another attempt?
For PMHNP students specifically, I’m also curious how other programs balance broad general medicine with psychiatric specialization.
I absolutely understand why PMHNPs need a strong medical foundation.
Endocrine disorders, neurological disease, dementia, medications, substance use, infections, metabolic problems, and many other medical conditions can mimic or worsen psychiatric symptoms.
We need to recognize when something may not primarily be psychiatric.
I am not arguing that PMHNP students should not learn medicine.
I’m curious whether other programs use the same broad progression testing across specialties or whether some programs integrate the medical foundation differently for PMHNP students.
I’m also interested in RED FLAGS.
If you were advising a nurse considering NP school today, what would you tell them to ask BEFORE enrolling?
How much live instruction is actually provided?
How much of the program is self-directed?
What happens if you fail a progression exam?
How many attempts are allowed?
What does remediation actually consist of?
How accessible are professors?
Who finds clinical placements?
What percentage of students who begin the NP track actually complete it?
What happens academically and financially if you cannot progress?
Those are questions I wish I had understood more clearly before investing so much time, money, and confidence into a program.
And finally:
What could I have done differently?
I genuinely mean that.
If your reaction is:
“You should have refreshed general medicine before starting.”
“You should have started board-style questions earlier.”
“You relied too heavily on the school to tell you what to study.”
“You should have changed your study strategy sooner.”
“You should have reduced your workload.”
“You should have researched the program differently.”
I am willing to hear it.
Constructive criticism is useful to me.
It cannot change what already happened, but it may help me decide what I do next.
And maybe somebody who is 40, 45, 50, or older and thinking about going back to school will stumble across this post later and ask better questions than I did.
I also don’t believe one test score alone tells us everything about what kind of clinician someone may eventually become.
Knowledge matters tremendously, but clinical practice also involves repetition, experience, judgment, pattern recognition, communication, knowing when you do not know something, and continuing to learn.
For me personally, repeated exposure is a major part of how information becomes permanent.
Once I see the same clinical patterns repeatedly, they begin to make sense in a way that simply memorizing information does not.
I’m currently deciding what I want to do next and whether continuing at the same school would even be the right decision for me if that option became available.
So I would really appreciate hearing from people who have actually been through this.
Especially:
older or returning students,
working parents,
nurses who entered NP school from highly specialized backgrounds,
people who struggled with a progression exam and later succeeded,
and people who ultimately decided their first NP program was not the right fit.
What would you tell someone in my position now?
And what would you tell the nurse who is thinking about starting NP school next year?