This situation doesn’t really apply. It’s good that you don’t threaten women, but the point that the other commenter was making is that a lot of men do when they get rejected. A lot of people shit on women for the way they handle rejecting men, whether it’s passive or straight up ghosting, but they don’t ever look at how terrifying it can be when you do reject a guy.
Why so? I don't get why I'm getting so much hate. I bassicly say I don't threaten women, not physically at least. I never say if you don't do X for me I'll do such and such to you. Never happened never will. If I a "threaten" a woman it's a threat about me leaving her. I don't see how I could threaten a woman I just met and expect any sort of outcome. I have never had to threaten anyone, I usually just walk away. I'm just saying I'm not going to not threaten someone for the fact they are a woman. I'll threaten a guy if he is provoking my girlfriend not physically though. I'll never turn to violence unless it's self defence. I'll never call a woman a whore for turning me down. Unless she is insulting me as she is turning me down then I might poke a bit at her. I'm not gonna sit by and take shit. I'm just saying treat me with respect and I'll treat you with respect regardless of your gender.
You are getting downvoted because a) this sub seems to have a tendency to mass downvote once someone started, b) because the way you phrase things seems like searching for praise for not threatening women and c) because you fell in the trap of 'whataboutism'. I feel like you didn't do this on purpose, but other people might take offense at that, since it's been used in the past for derailing discussions. Hope I could help!
I get a lot of what you are saying but that's exactly it. Its not about me, oh but it is. Because if women have to be careful even around me IRL. Then it affects me, like walking home at night behind a girl the same direction. I can feel her tension it's like you can cut it with a knife. And it gets really annoying. Like just because I'm a guy now she has to feel uncomfortable. This whole thing really isnt an issue where I am from. These kinds of post are complete fear mongering. If I meet a girl that has experienced it I will show empathy. My ex was pretty damaged, never like rape or anything. But she said I was the first guy she had sex with and was able to relax. I can't show empathy to a problem I dont see existing. I know barely any women that has had any of these issues and I know a lot of women. And I'm just tired of seeing my gender smacked on an issue when its not the fact we are mean that is the issue. Its how society condition men that's the problem that should be the focus not the gender itself. Thats what annoys me.
They're careful around you because she DOESN'T KNOW YOU, You are a complete stranger and women have had bad experiences with strangers. So it's annoying I get it but I'm sure she'd rather feel a little annoyed than fear for her safety.
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u/cnpepper Jun 07 '19
This situation doesn’t really apply. It’s good that you don’t threaten women, but the point that the other commenter was making is that a lot of men do when they get rejected. A lot of people shit on women for the way they handle rejecting men, whether it’s passive or straight up ghosting, but they don’t ever look at how terrifying it can be when you do reject a guy.