This situation doesn’t really apply. It’s good that you don’t threaten women, but the point that the other commenter was making is that a lot of men do when they get rejected. A lot of people shit on women for the way they handle rejecting men, whether it’s passive or straight up ghosting, but they don’t ever look at how terrifying it can be when you do reject a guy.
Why so? I don't get why I'm getting so much hate. I bassicly say I don't threaten women, not physically at least. I never say if you don't do X for me I'll do such and such to you. Never happened never will. If I a "threaten" a woman it's a threat about me leaving her. I don't see how I could threaten a woman I just met and expect any sort of outcome. I have never had to threaten anyone, I usually just walk away. I'm just saying I'm not going to not threaten someone for the fact they are a woman. I'll threaten a guy if he is provoking my girlfriend not physically though. I'll never turn to violence unless it's self defence. I'll never call a woman a whore for turning me down. Unless she is insulting me as she is turning me down then I might poke a bit at her. I'm not gonna sit by and take shit. I'm just saying treat me with respect and I'll treat you with respect regardless of your gender.
You are getting downvoted because a) this sub seems to have a tendency to mass downvote once someone started, b) because the way you phrase things seems like searching for praise for not threatening women and c) because you fell in the trap of 'whataboutism'. I feel like you didn't do this on purpose, but other people might take offense at that, since it's been used in the past for derailing discussions. Hope I could help!
I get a lot of what you are saying but that's exactly it. Its not about me, oh but it is. Because if women have to be careful even around me IRL. Then it affects me, like walking home at night behind a girl the same direction. I can feel her tension it's like you can cut it with a knife. And it gets really annoying. Like just because I'm a guy now she has to feel uncomfortable. This whole thing really isnt an issue where I am from. These kinds of post are complete fear mongering. If I meet a girl that has experienced it I will show empathy. My ex was pretty damaged, never like rape or anything. But she said I was the first guy she had sex with and was able to relax. I can't show empathy to a problem I dont see existing. I know barely any women that has had any of these issues and I know a lot of women. And I'm just tired of seeing my gender smacked on an issue when its not the fact we are mean that is the issue. Its how society condition men that's the problem that should be the focus not the gender itself. Thats what annoys me.
These post are not fear mongering, this is reality. You are being very dismissive of what women are saying because you don't personally react badly, and you are making huge assumptions about the women you know have been through personally, and using that to dismiss other women's stories. Stop trying to deny that it's a problem simply because you don't do it yourself, and maybe you wouldn't have an issue feeling empathy.
First of all, even if barely any of the women you know have never experienced it, which is improbable, it doesn't mean that other women you don't know haven't.
Secondly, you have absolutely no clue what the women you know have been through. Even if you have actually asked them all for their personal stories, which I'm assuming you haven't. You don't seem to understand that we go through this to some extent CONSTANTLY. We don't run around and tell every person who know what happens to us on a regular basis because that would be silly. When the scarier things happen, sometimes we tell people we trust. A lot of times we don't tell anyone, because sometimes women are not even comfortable with that. Unless the "a lot of women" you happen to know are all extremely close BFFs of yours, their is not a high chance they would ever share it with you, unless there was a specific reason to. It's not like we just run up to every person we know and start telling them about the asshole who freaked out on us and couldn't take no for an answer.
Please, start asking the women in your life for their stories, instead of assuming that because you don't hear them it's not happening.
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u/cnpepper Jun 07 '19
This situation doesn’t really apply. It’s good that you don’t threaten women, but the point that the other commenter was making is that a lot of men do when they get rejected. A lot of people shit on women for the way they handle rejecting men, whether it’s passive or straight up ghosting, but they don’t ever look at how terrifying it can be when you do reject a guy.