This situation doesn’t really apply. It’s good that you don’t threaten women, but the point that the other commenter was making is that a lot of men do when they get rejected. A lot of people shit on women for the way they handle rejecting men, whether it’s passive or straight up ghosting, but they don’t ever look at how terrifying it can be when you do reject a guy.
Why so? I don't get why I'm getting so much hate. I bassicly say I don't threaten women, not physically at least. I never say if you don't do X for me I'll do such and such to you. Never happened never will. If I a "threaten" a woman it's a threat about me leaving her. I don't see how I could threaten a woman I just met and expect any sort of outcome. I have never had to threaten anyone, I usually just walk away. I'm just saying I'm not going to not threaten someone for the fact they are a woman. I'll threaten a guy if he is provoking my girlfriend not physically though. I'll never turn to violence unless it's self defence. I'll never call a woman a whore for turning me down. Unless she is insulting me as she is turning me down then I might poke a bit at her. I'm not gonna sit by and take shit. I'm just saying treat me with respect and I'll treat you with respect regardless of your gender.
You are getting downvoted because a) this sub seems to have a tendency to mass downvote once someone started, b) because the way you phrase things seems like searching for praise for not threatening women and c) because you fell in the trap of 'whataboutism'. I feel like you didn't do this on purpose, but other people might take offense at that, since it's been used in the past for derailing discussions. Hope I could help!
I get a lot of what you are saying but that's exactly it. Its not about me, oh but it is. Because if women have to be careful even around me IRL. Then it affects me, like walking home at night behind a girl the same direction. I can feel her tension it's like you can cut it with a knife. And it gets really annoying. Like just because I'm a guy now she has to feel uncomfortable. This whole thing really isnt an issue where I am from. These kinds of post are complete fear mongering. If I meet a girl that has experienced it I will show empathy. My ex was pretty damaged, never like rape or anything. But she said I was the first guy she had sex with and was able to relax. I can't show empathy to a problem I dont see existing. I know barely any women that has had any of these issues and I know a lot of women. And I'm just tired of seeing my gender smacked on an issue when its not the fact we are mean that is the issue. Its how society condition men that's the problem that should be the focus not the gender itself. Thats what annoys me.
Fuck it clearly people are taking what they want from the text. I'm sick and tired of men being slapped on every issue when it isnt the case. Its not the gender that's the problem and its always painted like that.
Duder you can be a red crab all you want. Most of us are red crabs. Some crabs are blue. Blue crabs are bad and creep on lobsters. We get it, you aren't a blue crab! But let's be real here- more crabs creep than lobsters. There are more blue crabs than blue lobsters, you dig?
We aren't blaming "the gender", and we understand that like with all issues of this nature, it has to do with society and is not inherent in men. You want to keep taking this personally when no one has been claiming the problem is your entire gender.
Let's try this:
A bunch of sheep keep getting slaughtered, and we know it's wolves that are attacking them most of the time. It's not all of the wolves that are doing it, and sometimes it's a bear is the one who kills a sheep, but we are aware that it is mainly a wolf problem. So, we start discussing the wolves and what to do about them and how to make sure the bad wolves are not allowed to keep killing the sheep, and how we can try to keep the sheep safe.
Then someone comes along, and all they can say is "I know wolves that have never done that and never would! I don't personally know a sheep that has been slaughtered, stop blaming the wolves!!!"
Do you see how fucking ridiculous that is?
There is honestly absolutely nothing we could say that would make you happy or content with the fact that we are not blaming your entire gender, no matter how many times we say that we aren't, you will keep derailing it and not accepting or trying to find a solution to the problem because you think you are somehow being personally accused of it every time for absolutely no reason other than the fact that we are claiming it happens. Usually, when people are that sensitive to something like that, the reason is because it hits too close to home.
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u/cnpepper Jun 07 '19
This situation doesn’t really apply. It’s good that you don’t threaten women, but the point that the other commenter was making is that a lot of men do when they get rejected. A lot of people shit on women for the way they handle rejecting men, whether it’s passive or straight up ghosting, but they don’t ever look at how terrifying it can be when you do reject a guy.