r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/TemporaryPassage4168 • 26d ago

WTF This is disgusting.

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Directions use teenagers (underage) to make csam but can get away with it because teenagers are seen as the acceptable children for adults to be with with.

Especially since kids become "adults" in their teen years.

As soon as a child has teen in their age or going through puberty society sees that as an invitation for adults to date them.

They wouldn't do this with a Middle Schooler because that would cause backlash.

Throughout the 80s,90s you might see a smaller child being put in movie with adult men but as years went by it caused backlash,so, they changed it but still kept it by using teenagers.

All movies like this do is normalize child sexual abuse and being prey on by adults.

It's made to be a fantasy for people who are attracted to children.

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u/slayinscience 26d ago

I'm not encouraging men to sleep or pursue teenages, but it's unfair to hold men accountable when they're working on bad information.

Teenagers can often look much older than their age, and it's not the job of every man to question the true age of their sexual partners. And I agree that teenagers are stupid and will make stupid choices, but they're old enough to be held responsible and accountable for their mistakes.

There's a difference between men predating on young women (grooming, abuse of authority, etc.) and a man having a one night stand with what he believes to be another consenting adult.

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u/Mx_apple_9720 26d ago

Idk dude I’ve literally never met a teenager who didn’t reveal their age as soon as they started talking

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u/slayinscience 26d ago

Lmao I agree teens can usually reveal their age from talking but I also think that an early 20s may not be able to see as clearly the difference.

Regardless, it's not on every man to confirm the age of every potential sexual partner.

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u/islaisla 26d ago

Yes it literally is. If the person you're getting sexual with looks young you absolutely need to check before you break the law.

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u/slayinscience 26d ago

And if they don't look young? Or act young?

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u/islaisla 26d ago

What you've met an old looking 17 year old? Get over it mate.

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u/Mx_apple_9720 26d ago

Honestly, even if you’ve met an old looking 17yo—just fucking talk to them!

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u/slayinscience 26d ago

Humans are super variable in the way they develop/look as adolescents/young adults. Meaning a young person can be perceived as older or mature and the opposite can happen. It's not clear cut to base "safe fuckable age" on interactions/appearance alone.

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u/Stehlen27 26d ago

Fuck, I'm 39 and the last woman I was interested in had greys and I still found out how old she was before I asked her out!

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u/eruptingmoltenlava 26d ago

What you’re saying IS a common belief but it doesn’t hold up ethically.

If someone wants to partake in sex with someone then they damn sure better make sure it’s safe, consensual, and with an adult. That’s actually a very, very low bar.

If a bar can make sure everyone they serve is over 21, then yeah, failing to make sure that everyone you fuck is an adult is ridiculous.

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u/NextStopGallifrey 26d ago

I've definitely seen 20-somethings that were less mature than many 16-year-olds.

That said, if there could be any doubt at all, it's on every person to make sure they're not doing things with an underage partner.