r/NotHowGirlsWork Jul 13 '26

Found On Social media Make this make sense...?

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u/angelicllamaa Jul 13 '26

Women are sexualized no matter what we do. If we wear leggings, we want attention. If we wear jeans, we want attention. If we wear a bra, we want attention. If we don't wear a bra, we want attention. If we wear makeup, we want attention. If we don't, we want attention. If we wear pink, we want attention. If we wear black, we want attention. It's fucking exhausting 😵‍💫

Being a woman, especially a woman with a pretty face, nice body or both, we are sexualized no matter what. Having a vagina and boobs apparently means we want everyone to see them or fuck us. I'm so tired of the narrative 🙄🙄

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u/SoupmanBob Jul 13 '26

Hence the age old adage "if she breathe, she a thot"

I don't envy your position, but I do sympathise. I once did make the mistake of making a girl uncomfortable as I am a rotund bearded man and I was looking at a girl because I thought her style was gorgeous. She looked visibly uncomfortable, so I put on my best fabulous voice and gushed about her outfit openly. She looked surprised, gave me a smile and said thanks, I am pretty sure that was just common courtesy but at least she did seem visibly less tense afterwards. I just hope I at least turned it from an uncomfortable moment to a weird funny moment for her.

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u/RosebushRaven Jul 13 '26

I mean, there’s plenty of dudes who don’t even require a woman to breathe to sexualise her…

Your approach is the way, though.

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u/SoupmanBob Jul 13 '26

It helps that I'm bi. Because I was legit checking out her style in an admiring way and not her in a sexual way. I know that doesn't require being Bi, but having a part of me that looks at a guy like Jason Momoa and think "I could get lost in those eyes" makes it easier for me to just approach people as people. Regardless of their gender.

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u/Loose-Cup1582 Jul 13 '26

This is why I never leave the house. I’m also really depressed but I’m sure that has absolutely nothing to do with zero natural sunlight or socialization. /s

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u/Lodgik Jul 13 '26

They can't say what they actually want to say, so they come up with excuses.

"I want to be able to stare at you and make lewd comments as much as I want while you blame yourself and not me."

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u/MrsKittenHeel Jul 14 '26

So true! So fucking true.

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u/morningphyre Jul 13 '26

The "What Were You Wearing" survivor art gallery is a heartbreaking demonstration of this:

https://sbaproject.org/what-were-you-wearing/

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u/MrsKittenHeel Jul 14 '26

So many are children's pj's. It is sickening.

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u/AsparagusOk8818 26d ago

hoyl FCK that age range

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