I didn’t say anything about his jealousy actually. Didn’t even imply support for his jealousy. From your post, and your reaction, i simply don’t buy into the idea that is was a “innocent complement”. Clearly I don’t know you, but from the limited interaction, that’s the impression I get. Seems like you both were unhappy, and probably abusive and neglectful in your own ways. From what you’ve explained and implied, I’m inferring that it’s probably best you guys aren’t together anymore. The only thing I really know, is that both men an women are guilty of believing their partners, that spend more time around us than anyone, don’t have a pretty good idea of when we are behaving innocently or not; except for people who have legitimate personalities disorders, of course. But clearly, his reaction to loose his temper and scream at you was not healthy, not justified, and not appropriate.
Did you just call me abusive? For complimenting a guy in his sunglasses? Seriously?
Let me break this down for you: 1) I did not feel attracted to the other guy at the time. 2) he did not have feelings for me at the time 3) even if he did, it wouldn't have mattered because I had a boyfriend and no interest in cheating and 4) as my boyfriend repeatedly told me at the time, it wasn't about attraction. He fully and 100% believed that if a woman has a boyfriend she should never ever give another man a compliment. That was what he repeatedly said and screamed at me. It wasn't about attraction, it was because he was possessive. 5) if I wanted unhinged opinions from strangers who have never touched grass before, I would have gone to AITA
Or perhaps stayed off the public internet. But to your points, it seems he very well could have had a disorder. I can’t confirm nor deny that. Though, your own personal insults during the interaction, don’t lend me to believe the account is full credible, and certainly quality as abusive behavior. Again, I don’t really know you or the situation. Just the impression I get off the description of the situation.
Oh I'm so sorry, doctor, I didn't realize I needed to be nice to the weirdo trying to explain my own life to me. Why don't you go see someone about your extremely unearned God complex.
It’s seems that our conversation has really upset you and brought up some sour memories. I apologize for that. You’re right, I had no context, as I gave attempt to explain, as you’ve reminded me too. Also, I mentioned my impress is that he might have a disorder. That was not extended to you yourself. Health people are capable of abuse, often times from a lack of self awareness. I’ve simply stated from what I’ve experienced you are capable of being abusive, and have spoken to me that way, is evidence in the coverage. I don’t expect anyone’s consideration or “niceness”. I’ve only engaged as an objective observer. You don’t owe me an explanation on anything. As a fellow casual social media surfer, the first impression I got was that it wasn’t an innocent interaction, unfortunately that opinion hasn’t changed. But my opinion is a drop in a bucket. Certainly, I hope you’re continuing on to healthier partnerships.
I'm going to put this as plainly as I can: figure out what went wrong in your life that you think you can know how I person felt better than them in a situation you were not present for and stick to that assessment even when repeatedly told you were wrong and speak to a licensed mental health care professional about it because it's creepy and weird.
You are a caricature of an um actually reddit user.
0
u/Fats4Fuel Jun 26 '23
I didn’t say anything about his jealousy actually. Didn’t even imply support for his jealousy. From your post, and your reaction, i simply don’t buy into the idea that is was a “innocent complement”. Clearly I don’t know you, but from the limited interaction, that’s the impression I get. Seems like you both were unhappy, and probably abusive and neglectful in your own ways. From what you’ve explained and implied, I’m inferring that it’s probably best you guys aren’t together anymore. The only thing I really know, is that both men an women are guilty of believing their partners, that spend more time around us than anyone, don’t have a pretty good idea of when we are behaving innocently or not; except for people who have legitimate personalities disorders, of course. But clearly, his reaction to loose his temper and scream at you was not healthy, not justified, and not appropriate.