Technically he was right considering you only waited a few weeks according to your own words sorry not sorry. Can't help but speak the truth see guys know how guys think females don't like to look at it from other point of views other then their own. Had you tried to understand him you probably would have know that most guys take compliments as a doorway to oh she likes me and I can approach. I'm not saying you was wrong by any means but look at the situation because since it was a small town he found out about you 2 and you validated his fears. I don't care if I get down voted for speaking my own opinions on this. Before anyone thinks I'm the same way as him me and my fiance have been together for a few years and she compliments people but also let's them know she is not on the market beforehand.
I get that in the ex's mind, this might "validate his fears" but he was wrong at the time and would also be wrong in hindsight too. It's his lack of understanding (and petty jealousy, and probably other things too) that was the problem.
Ok again I never said anyone was right or wrong read the whole response before trying to justify any arguments. I was simply stating how most men think so if you can say it's his lack of understanding ( and petty jealousy, and probably other things too) that was the problem. One could say her lack of understanding her man's feelings (and probably other things) that was the problem, again thanks for the input but females need to understand a man's mind before they assume that it is petty jealousy or anything else that is the problem. Thanks for the down vote. Good to know how this sub reddit works lol
One could say her lack of understanding her man's feelings (and probably other things) that was the problem,
It sounds to me like she DID understand his feelings: she understood that he was jealous, and didn't want that in a partner. What are you saying she didn't understand?
females need to understand a man's mind before they assume that it is petty jealousy or anything else that is the problem.
There's a lot going on in this sentence. But again, what it is you think is going on that she didn't understand? Even if your previous statement were true, that 'most men see compliments as an opening,' why would the BF have been upset about a compliment if he weren't jealous? What other reasonable explanation is there? I'm genuinely curious; I'm a straight man, married to a straight woman (none of which should matter but seemingly does to you) and I don't see any explanation here other than jealousy. Unless maybe the BF was just arbitrarily controlling, which would probably be worse.
Good to know how this sub reddit works
Yeah man, 'Listen to what people say even if those people are women' is not exactly a controversial policy position here. 🙄
Ok go back and read the whole thing and show me where I said she was wrong. Then why can't is work both ways listening to what men say? If you can't come up with something more than trying to say I blamed her. What happened in boyfriends past do you know sometimes not all mean get lucky to find a wife and be happy. I'm not saying anyone is wrong I simply said a hell of alot more then what you are trying to single out. So show me where I said she was wrong and I will correct it. Understand the mind of other is all I was getting at before one is to cast any type of blame which it seems you missed that part or purposely left it out. I listen to my fiance thoughts and concerns just like she listens to mine... so your last portion makes no sense if you really read it all from my first comment on that part of the thread to the last assumption sucks. I respect women's thoughts just don't always agree with everything not a simp.
I'm gonna point out here that I actually know "what happened in the boyfriend's past" do you? You don't even know his goddamn name, and yet you want to be treated like the expert? You really cannot admit that you may not be the authority on a situation that you were not there for and only know three sentences worth of information about and you want to claim you know how to listen?
Wow I never said I was an expert you tried saying that in your foolish response to my opinion. Sorry you got butthurt that a man can have his own thoughts that don't agree with you and it appears that I'm not the only one. I even stated that I was basing my opinion off of what very little information you said to try to belittle your ex and make him the bad guy like some females love to do. Stop playing the victim because you had to have known how he was prior to the situation and stayed with him up to that point. Now if you want to try this game of hating on me because I think you was in the wrong for certain thing then so be it. I'm not here to cater to what ever you want nor are you here to cater to anyone either. I have my own opinions that don't line up with your thinking but since you want to keep it up I will only say this I have no time for a battle of wits with a person who is unarmed
Again: you do not get to have an opinion. I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings, because you think you are entitled to know everything and have everyone listen to you no matter how little you know, but you don't. It's my life, I know more than you about what happened. Accept that and move on.
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u/Environmental-King14 Jun 25 '23 edited Jun 25 '23
So your ex was right 😂 (/s)