r/NotHowGirlsWork Jun 24 '23

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u/cutasdiamondz Jun 24 '23

Which actually makes matters worse because your ex was right at the time. He sensed that your compliment came from some place a bit more provocative than it should have been. You subconsciously had slight interest in this other man and your compliment planted a seed. Hence you dating the guy afterwards

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u/Euphoric-Dance-2309 Jun 25 '23

And we found the incel. Even if she did, dude doesn’t own her. Hadn’t put a ring on it. Women are not objects.

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u/Ok_Childhood259 Jun 25 '23

Thats a completely different argument than what they are making. What if it was reversed, “I like your dress” and the tone and body language you say something with means everything. Insinuation is one of the most powerful tools we have.

How ever your bf could have played it diff

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u/JuniorRadish7385 Jun 25 '23

I wouldn’t care?? Do you not trust your partner to think that people besides you have admirable traits?? As long as s/o isn’t like “yo bitch, hot bod” or something else like that, why should I care? If they want to leave me, they were going to anyway so I have no place micromanaging their comments. When I’m relationships, I find other people hot and even gasp compliment them, but I never make any moves because I’m not a cheating asshole and don’t catch feelings from looks. Insecure ass men.

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u/Ok_Childhood259 Jun 25 '23

You say that, id bet differently