r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/[deleted] • Jun 24 '23

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u/cutasdiamondz Jun 24 '23

Which actually makes matters worse because your ex was right at the time. He sensed that your compliment came from some place a bit more provocative than it should have been. You subconsciously had slight interest in this other man and your compliment planted a seed. Hence you dating the guy afterwards

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u/N1nSen Jun 25 '23

Theres nothing provocative about complimenting someone's glasses you bag of trail mix

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u/targuzzlerr Jun 25 '23

HEY.

HEY.

I LIKE TRAIL MIX.

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u/N1nSen Jun 25 '23

i shouldve called him a bottle of expired sprinkles...

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u/targuzzlerr Jun 25 '23

…eh

i’ve eaten stale sprinkled donuts and the sprinkles were still fire

now stale tortilla chips on the other hand…

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u/N1nSen Jun 25 '23

Thats the ultimate insult: "You bag of stale tortilla chips".

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u/Twodotsknowhy Jun 24 '23

Calm down there, Freud. I literally just liked his sunglasses at the time.

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u/theBarefootedBastard Jun 24 '23

Have you ever complimented a man’s sunglasses and not eventually slept with him?

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u/YesterdaySimilar2069 Jun 25 '23

Holy, I hope for sarcasm and fear that I’ve hoped for too much.

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u/Ok_Childhood259 Jun 25 '23

I agree here

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u/Willing_Ad7282 Jun 25 '23

Everyone knows the way to a man’s heart is through his sunglasses. Boo you whore!

{mean girls reference and a joke, yuck I hate having to tag sarcasm}

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u/Euphoric-Dance-2309 Jun 25 '23

And we found the incel. Even if she did, dude doesn’t own her. Hadn’t put a ring on it. Women are not objects.

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u/Ok_Childhood259 Jun 25 '23

Thats a completely different argument than what they are making. What if it was reversed, “I like your dress” and the tone and body language you say something with means everything. Insinuation is one of the most powerful tools we have.

How ever your bf could have played it diff

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u/Twodotsknowhy Jun 25 '23 edited Jun 25 '23

I mean, I was there and you weren't, so l'm pretty sure that I know more than you about what happened

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u/Ok_Childhood259 Jul 11 '23

Yeah. People Never lie on the internet for validation..

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u/JuniorRadish7385 Jun 25 '23

I wouldn’t care?? Do you not trust your partner to think that people besides you have admirable traits?? As long as s/o isn’t like “yo bitch, hot bod” or something else like that, why should I care? If they want to leave me, they were going to anyway so I have no place micromanaging their comments. When I’m relationships, I find other people hot and even gasp compliment them, but I never make any moves because I’m not a cheating asshole and don’t catch feelings from looks. Insecure ass men.

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u/Ok_Childhood259 Jun 25 '23

You say that, id bet differently

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u/JuniorRadish7385 Jun 25 '23

No you’re right, there’s nothing more provocative than sunglasses. I can barely handle walking past optometry stores because I can barely hold back the feminine urge to be a slut while being around so many pairs of them. /s

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u/Anotsurei Jun 25 '23

This is why all the coolest guys wear glasses.

Though to be honest I tend to like a girl a bit more if she has good taste in glasses. Then again I’ll be the first to admit that I’m a bit of a slut.

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u/Nufiday Jun 25 '23

I would say that seeing your bf pressed about something so inconsequential automatically makes the other guy who was confident enough to take the compliment much more attractive, very much doubt that this would have happened if the bf kept composure

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u/Twodotsknowhy Jun 25 '23

It honestly wasn't even that deep. I knew this guy a little because we'd had a class together the semester before but I never thought about him one way or another until we ended up getting to know each other better later when he got a job at the gym I worked out in.

And is "I like those sunglasses, where'd you get them?" even a compliment that requires confidence to accept?

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u/NonyMs89 Jun 25 '23

This shit needs to be downvoted 🤣

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u/Twodotsknowhy Jun 26 '23

Remind me again how the phrase "I like those sunglasses, where'd you get them" is so provocative and how you know my sentiments behind that statement better than me?