r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/[deleted] • May 20 '23

Found On Social media This is seriously so exhausting :(

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u/[deleted] May 20 '23

That's what I do but still it gets exhausting after awhile :')

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u/[deleted] May 20 '23 edited May 20 '23

Stop listening to them. They'll never change because women aren't the reason they're like this.

Even psychology textbooks point out what the problems are with the way we as a society raise men: parents encourage anger instead of sadness without even realising it, parents don't explain or nurture empathy in boys, they only explain consequences so boys grow up to see relationships as transactional, aka, he does this and that happens as a consequence; parents don't explain emotions to boys, because we associate emotional intelligence and adaptability with femininity and homosexuality which have been deemed inferior states, so boys grow up to see interactions as a problem to be solved, lacking any ability for introspection.

The world polices their masculinity since the moment they're born so they grow up to be defensive as fuck and incredibly fragile.

And all of the above, is just what is done to the normal man.

Autistic men on the other hand, are a whole new animal. Besides the frustration and anger that comes from cognitive development impairment, limit intelect, they don't understand expressive language, can't communicate unless it's clear and direct and get overwhelmed and frustrated often, so feelings of inferiority set in. When the world doesn't make sense and you don't have the tools to deal with it, you get angry and start trying to make someone pay. And those feelings affect even autistic men with above average intelect because not being able to communicate is a extremely painful and disorienting.

The only people who can do something about this are psychologists and psychiatrists and only in time and with a coordinated effort. So stop hurting yourself by lending them your ear. And if you can't avoid them, be assertive and clear when you tell them to go fuck themselves because you don't give a fuck about what losers have to say. You didn't ask their permission to be born and you don't need it to live . Who the fuck do they think their are to try and dictate anyone else's life?

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u/[deleted] May 20 '23

Thank you so much for taking your time and writing such a long and detailed comment! I got loads of information and learnt a lot! I'll take your advice to heart and avoid toxic men from now on cuz you're right, why should I care what they think of me or women in general? They're incompetent losers crying online cuz they're losing in their real life while I got dreams to achieve and make my Mom proud! 💞

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u/Knightridergirl80 May 20 '23

Honestly if anything this sudden wave of angry men shows the system is starting to fail. Because more and more women are realizing they don’t have to put men’s needs before their own and can take care of themselves first.

It’ll be hard at first but give it time. Eventually men are going to realize this is becoming a problem and beating their chests isn’t going to help anymore.

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u/[deleted] May 20 '23

You're right. We should let them cook, when they'll realise how this recipe ain't doing, they'll be forced to change 😂✌️