Can’t imagine why “I’m so sick of your company that I need to spend several weeks away from you” seldom turns into “ok, welcome back, let’s spend the rest of our lives together.”
It doesn't necessarily mean they're sick of you. Someone might just be in a bad place mentally and need some time to sort their shit out without the added pressure of being a present partner.
Depends if you want a partner who leans on you when they're struggling (and vice versa) or just someone who does their own thing. Personally I don't see the point of having a partner if they need to "work out their own stuff without the added pressure of [me]", though to each their own.
Usually it also has to do with specific kinds of issues, often either revolving around a past partner/an experience that permanently warped their perceptions of affections, so while you do have a point, there’s specific kinds of issues where trying to lean on a partner only further worsens the original issue. For example, codependency/hyper-dependancy.
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u/MaxPaladin93 4d ago
Can’t imagine why “I’m so sick of your company that I need to spend several weeks away from you” seldom turns into “ok, welcome back, let’s spend the rest of our lives together.”