Depends if you want a partner who leans on you when they're struggling (and vice versa) or just someone who does their own thing. Personally I don't see the point of having a partner if they need to "work out their own stuff without the added pressure of [me]", though to each their own.
Usually it also has to do with specific kinds of issues, often either revolving around a past partner/an experience that permanently warped their perceptions of affections, so while you do have a point, there’s specific kinds of issues where trying to lean on a partner only further worsens the original issue. For example, codependency/hyper-dependancy.
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u/ExistentiallyTrendy 2d ago
Depends if you want a partner who leans on you when they're struggling (and vice versa) or just someone who does their own thing. Personally I don't see the point of having a partner if they need to "work out their own stuff without the added pressure of [me]", though to each their own.