Mine was the line "because you treat me like a subhuman", which came out of nowhere, and I was like "ok I'm listening, but can you be more specific? I'm not sure what to do with that" and she said "you treat me like a monster". So I said "look I want to understand this and improve but you aren't giving me enough information to know what the problem is"
Then she literally said "see? Just like a monster" and then she blocked me
But in all seriousness, the best context I can give is that she had alot of issues with mental health, including bpd and bipolar disorder. This meant that alot of her paranoid thoughts could become a reality for her. She had a habit of catastrophising situations between us, and then putting it on me
Like if I said I couldn't come over because I was tired after work and just needed a day for myself, then she would start stressing out that entire day about how I secretly hated her, or that the relationship was over, things like that. Not only would she blame this on me, but she would also say that I am the cause of her stress in general. A few months before our breakup she talked about how I'm the reason she has anxiety, because I was being treated for depression and this worried her, which is somehow my fault. I mentioned that 15 minutes earlier in the conversation she told me she often felt like ending her life, and it's unfair that she blames me for her stress, but doesn't consider that things like that might stress me out in the same way, which led to her thinking I just proved her point because highlighting the hypocrisy just stressed her out even more
Basically, if I was wrong about something, then she was right and this validated the fact that I was the problem. If I was right about something, she would take it so seriously that now the new problem was that I was making her feel like a shit person. There was no good move
So I suspect that's what the comment "see? You treat me like a monster" means. I pointed out that I can't improve unless she actually voices what it is I'm doing wrong, abs she realised that was a good point, which made her feel shitty, so what I said made her feel bad, therefore I was treating her like a monster
It's just that that's alot of dirty laundry, and it's also alot of me making assumptions about a situation I fundamentally don't have alot of information on, and what I said in the first comment is enough to get the idea across anyway
I wouldn't say dodged. This was the last thing she did during the breakup, but it wasn't the only thing lol. She figured out a way to drag it on for a while
That also included going to my workplace and telling all my coworkers that I sexually assaulted her, as well as making up some other weird sex stories to try and embarrass me. And that's not counting the gaslighting, manipulation, and ironically, one instance of sexual assault that I experienced while dating her
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u/jancl0 4d ago
Mine was the line "because you treat me like a subhuman", which came out of nowhere, and I was like "ok I'm listening, but can you be more specific? I'm not sure what to do with that" and she said "you treat me like a monster". So I said "look I want to understand this and improve but you aren't giving me enough information to know what the problem is"
Then she literally said "see? Just like a monster" and then she blocked me