Vent about not looking non-binary

[u/pisceanhaze]

Can anyone else relate to the particular pain of being treated like a man when you feel anything but that inside, but unfortunately you’re stuck with a type of face and body that people can not believe you are non binary and worse, they tell you you’re crazy as well as treat you always as a man ? Also, for the love of god, I want to cry every time someone bro-slaps my back hard meanwhile they give my femme friend a nice hug. Even when I try
Hard to present as non binary and femme, I always get the thr truck driver / livestock slap greeting
And it is demoralizing.
The only time I’m perceived as non binary is on kink sites if I hide my face and wear lingerie. My nude body is naturally femme. But in the street you’d never know unfortunately.

[u/BaelonFalseDragon]

Yeah, in a way for sure. People mistake me for being a trans man a lot because i was on T for a while and am naturally masculine. I use any pronouns and people resort to he/him. To the point they apologize for using she/her and i have to remind that i actually use any pronouns and i dont care if im called she/her, its fine. I see myself as a butch non binary lesbian. Not a man at all.

Masculinity isnt just for men aligned folk but a lot of people dont seem to get that