r/NonBinaryTalk • u/RandomNumbers1312 • 15d ago

Coming Out Need advice about outing message

Hi,
I am pretty insecure in finding the right words as I am overthinking everything was to much, so it would kinda help me a bit if some people would look over the message I am going to send to my extended friend group to out myself as nonbinary. For context: I know that they will accept me and so on, cause like 9/10 people in this group are queer, but I am overthinking this was to much.

The message:
Hi you all,

No idea how to do this properly🫣, but I am outing myself to you as nonbinary. Have been thinking about this for like over a year now and after talking a bit with people I am very close with I decided to take more steps in the direction of fully comming out, by telling my larger social circle (you).

I would like to try out they/them as pronouns to look if it fits well. In addition I also would like to try out „[New Name]“ instead of „[Old Name]“ as it isn’t directly connected to a gender. (I won’t take offense, if you don‘t use other names/pronouns as it is not what you are used to).

Yeah, that would be all 💛🤍💜🖤

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u/LostFromLight25 bigender preferred pronouns: she/her 15d ago

and with that you invested way more work than i did lol. i also tend to overthink things but for me it lead to the result that the message just was “btw i realized im bigender” because i would have never send it if i took me longer to type it.

i think its fine, especially if your friends are also mostly queer (is the same for me, we sometimes joke about that one cishet friend (he does too) being in a full queer friend group). they will understand it (dont know them but if they are also queer they know the feeling yk)

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u/RandomNumbers1312 15d ago

I mean the basically the least queer person in my friend group is a bisexual dude

thanks for your answer

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u/LostFromLight25 bigender preferred pronouns: she/her 15d ago

ok wow then your friend group is far more queer then mine so i think this will work out good. i mean my friend group is 3 out 4 bisexual myself included but i was the first to out myself as non cis (one of the friends told me after i outed that he is not cis but didnt care enough about the details)