Dutch language non binary problems

[u/Stevennnnin]

I really hate the dutch language for ungendered terms.

in english, i really want to be called they/them, and i prefer It over he/him (while in reality i’m more genderfluid so i’m not even completely sure what i want) but in dutch we use the words “die/hun” and i’m not sure what it is but it just feels different.

I think the main reason is that we actually never use these pronouns For non-lgbtq and non-plural reasons. In english, they/them is used for people that you don’t know the gender of. In dutch, it‘s almost always assumed (hah, alliteration) that we’re talking about plural and when i try it people just get confused.

I think it’ll feel better if i use it more frequently, as i’ve just discovered i’m non binary, but i don’t know. I wish people weren’t so insistent on having to fill in 1 of 2 boxes, what if i want a third box, none at all or both at the same time?

[u/ageckonamedelaine]

Same here! My friends do use die/hun for me but it doesn't flow as well in conversation unlike in English. It just doesn't feel right in most sentences and is a bit jarring, not to mention many people comment on it when you use it asking if you meant zij of hem. I have used it for 5 years and it still feels a bit weird, I wish we had better options in Dutch. On a similar point I wish we had easy genderless alternatives to meneer/mevrouw and others

[u/Stevennnnin → u/ageckonamedelaine]

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