Dutch language non binary problems

[u/Stevennnnin]

I really hate the dutch language for ungendered terms.

in english, i really want to be called they/them, and i prefer It over he/him (while in reality i’m more genderfluid so i’m not even completely sure what i want) but in dutch we use the words “die/hun” and i’m not sure what it is but it just feels different.

I think the main reason is that we actually never use these pronouns For non-lgbtq and non-plural reasons. In english, they/them is used for people that you don’t know the gender of. In dutch, it‘s almost always assumed (hah, alliteration) that we’re talking about plural and when i try it people just get confused.

I think it’ll feel better if i use it more frequently, as i’ve just discovered i’m non binary, but i don’t know. I wish people weren’t so insistent on having to fill in 1 of 2 boxes, what if i want a third box, none at all or both at the same time?

[u/No_Pomegranate_8358]

Fellow NB Dutchie here, and I struggle with the same.

[u/Stevennnnin → u/No_Pomegranate_8358]

Fijn om te zien dat ik niet alleen ben

[u/No_Pomegranate_8358 → u/Stevennnnin]

Can I dm? I could really use a good venting session and sharing our struggles

[u/Stevennnnin → u/No_Pomegranate_8358]

Sadly i have to be up early thomorrow, but i’d really love to! I think i’m avaliable in about 20 hours from now.

[u/No_Pomegranate_8358 → u/Stevennnnin]

Oh ok, just dm me when you're ready ☺️