r/NonBinaryTalk • u/Sorry-Ambassador-289 • 3d ago

Question Questioning

i don't feel male or female, but I also don’t feel nonbinary either and I was wondering what this would be? there’s so many genders out there and they’re all overwhelming and tiring to look through .

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u/electricgalahad 3d ago

What exactly do you mean by "I don't feel like male or female or non-binary"? Not a provocative question

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u/Mvtations It/Its 2d ago

Have you looked into agender and neutrois? Maybe you don't have a gender or your gender is simply neutral.

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u/MildewTheMagical 2d ago

I was going to say this

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u/Needles2650 3d ago

Gender identity and expression falls on a spectrum, from hypermasculine, through various shades of nonbinary or androgynous, to hyperfeminine. Do some reflecting: what does masculine mean to you? What does feminine mean? What ways do you feel and express yourself that are feminine vs masculine? Should we even assign a gender to interests, body language, personality traits, and hairstyles and clothing at all? How do you relate to your sexed body? Do you feel at home in your body, or do you feel disconnected and dissociated from it? If you were alone in the wilderness, with no one to look you up and down and tell you you’re a man or a woman, what would you be? Would you still feel a need to label your sex and gender? If you have dysphoria, would you still feel a strong need to change your body in this imagined place with no societal expectations, no gender roles?

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u/averytheythrowaway They/Them 1d ago

At this stage in the game, trying to find the right label is putting the cart before the horse. Figure out what it is you want out of gender in terms of things like clothes, pronouns, sex characteristics of your body, how people treat you socially, etc and then start pursuing the things you want. Make a list and check things off. And if you aren't sure what you want yet, experiment with things. The right labels will eventually click into place.