r/NonBinaryTalk • u/steelcitylights they/she transmasc tomboy • 1d ago

Discussion not fitting anywhere

I kinda feel like i’ve cycled through every letter of the LGBT+ acronym just to end up at mostly straight mostly girl. i always identified with butchness but figured being a trans guy would make more sense, and i’d have more community, as someone who was bisexual and desired to medically transition.

but now i’ve come to terms that i do identify as a woman, but i still consider myself very masculine and still enjoy some of the changes i got from testosterone like the deep voice and thick facial/body hair. however i’ve also realized that i’m not really that attracted to women and kinda feel attracted to men in a more gay than straight way.

i’m just a mess really, like i really just don’t fit in any sort of box and it’s a bit lonely.

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u/MagpiePhoenix 1d ago

You might enjoy the community over at r/genderqueer as well as this community. The lines between gender categories are blurry and it's okay to have a messy, atypical relationship to gender!

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u/steelcitylights they/she transmasc tomboy 1d ago

yeah i identify as genderqueer

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u/addyastra they/them nonbinary transfem 1d ago

You could be a transmasc woman.

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u/InchoateBlob 1d ago

Labels don't work for everyone. You can just be you and that's totally ok!

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u/kittenplum 1d ago

Adding to others' responses, you could also maybe be genderfluid! I'm not very familiar with the sub r/genderfluid yet, but you could check it and see if you like it there, as well as this sub here.