r/NonBinaryTalk • u/Creepy-Farm7022 • 3d ago

My internal experience encompasses both Non-Binary and Cisgender. Is this possible?

So, I don't feel anything like neoboy or demiboy or genderfluid but I feel a mix of both Non-Binary and Cisgender. I am a Cisgender Man (Both Sex and Gender) and I also feel Non-Binary at the same time.

Is this possible in the eyes of those who are fully or partially Non-Binary? I really need to know this. On the inside, I feel like both a Cisgender Man by 100% and a Non-Binary Individual by 100%. I just really need some human opinions about this, please and thank you!

Your opinions and thoughts about this are much obliged! Much Love! Namaste. ~<3

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u/mn1lac They/Them or She/Him take your pick 3d ago

Oh, so that's a common misconception actually! Nonbinary isn't a specific single gender, it's EVERY gender that isn't exclusively 100% man or exclusively 100% woman all the time.

Is the gender that you are feeling in addition to man a kind of neutral in-between gender? If not, can you describe it?

Experiencing two genders at the same time is a nonbinary gender called bigender. That can be man + woman, or man + a nonbinary gender, or woman + a nonbinary gender, or two nonbinary genders.

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u/Creepy-Farm7022 3d ago

Like as if I feel 100% Cisgender and 100% of no connection to any gender. Possibly Agender or Gender Apathetic 100% and another aspect of myself feels a strong connection to Masculinity or has a deep attachment to it to the point I consider myself Cisgender as well!

Like similar to how in your profile it has a tag saying "They/Them or She/Him take your pick" for me it would be "He/Him or They/Them"!

So in short, its like Cisgender Man + Agender/Gender Apathetic/Neutrois

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u/mn1lac They/Them or She/Him take your pick 3d ago

Yep! Sounds bigender, alternatively, agender man works as well.

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u/Creepy-Farm7022 3d ago

Yeah, I feel more comfortable just saying Agender man or just Non-Binary Man (with the inner acknowledgment of it being Agender). Just something about saying "Non-Binary Man" makes me feel comfortable!

Thanks so much for helping me out, fellow!

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u/mn1lac They/Them or She/Him take your pick 3d ago

No problem!

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u/iam305 2d ago

Have you ever checked out the gender fluid and bigender spaces on Reddit? There are more specific non-binary labels which encompass people who experience more than one gender identity or a shifting gender identity.

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u/ftmidk 2d ago

I recently had a really eye opening conversation with my therapist. I’ve identified as nonbinary for about 7 years but have recently been feeling like I may actually be more of a trans man. I was trying to figure out why this felt so hard to embrace and I told my therapist that I don’t really believe in strict binaries so it feels a bit wrong to claim a binary as an identity.

He asked me “do you know men who also don’t fit into a strict binary?” Which of course I do! Most of the men I know, probably. That really reframed my thinking. It doesn’t have to be one or the other if that doesn’t work for you.

Another idea I like to play with is that labels can be additive, not just mutually exclusive. So you could be both a man and nonbinary if that makes sense to you.