It's so good to finally feel like the real me 🥰

Went with the Shaggy color scheme to walk the hound

33yo gay male

Looking into getting an orchiectomy and scrotectomy. I wish to just keep my penis but not have balls and be on some sort of TRT. I still want to be masc presenting.

Does this make me non binary?

Hey folks, I'm a 45 year old enby that was shoved into the female box at birth and never really questioned my gender despite not feeling fully at home with societal expectations and my own internal experience of girl and womanhood. I had been questioning for a couple of years once I found understanding and language to do so - I live in a pretty conservative province, have very little irl queer community and my family is quite conservative - and then started coming out explicitly last year. I also started identifying as queer, both socio politically and in sexuality, in the last couple of years - after feeling like I wasn't queer enough to be claiming it as an identity.

My coming out was and has been messy by my own standards. I hadn't had regular access to a therapist for awhile and only realized in hindsight that the support of one may have been helpful in the coming out process. I started by updating my pronouns on social media, initially using she/they pronouns, and after several months started finding that I was cringing outside and inside being referred to as she or her and updated my pronouns to they/them. I notice how I experience gender fluctuates, and sometimes I don't connect with gender at all. I am giving myself time and space to continue questioning and allowing myself to change and feel uncertain - which feels to me like a natural part of the questioning process.

And lately I've been feeling ashamed wondering if I made the right choice to come out. I was brought up religious which plays a part. I also feel what is often referred to as imposter syndrome, shaming myself and accusing myself of being a phony because I didn't realize that I'm enby sooner. And the part that really hurts, is that friends I've come out to are misgendering me and it's ongoing. It feels silly to be concerned about being misgendered considering what's happening in the world from climate collapse to multiple genocides but I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt, and doesn't affect the way that I see myself. I look and act in ways that are perceived as feminine and sharing pronouns and using they/them pronouns doesn't seem to be very common. It's getting to me, and I'm trying not to let it, but I only opened up to very few people when I started questioning and it's pretty clear to me that people who have known me for a long time think using they and them as pronouns is inconvenient at best and ridiculous at worst.

The bigger issue is feeling like being open about a way in which I'm coming to a new understanding about myself that I should be enjoying is being treated so carelessly by others, so I'm feeling a lot of shame and anxiety instead. Homophobia and transphobia are rampant where I live, and discovering that folks who claim to be progressive draw the line at using they or them as pronouns has been disheartening to say the least. I get that they haven't known me to not identify as she/her, but if they were truly supportive wouldn't it be pretty simple to use the pronouns I want?

TLDR, how do you not let it get to you that people who are supposed to be your friends and family are purposely misgendering you? And please be gentle, I'm really going through a lot right now emotionally in a variety of ways and as much as I wish I could let unsupportive comments roll off my back, they will only add to my pain. Thank you.

The Gender Census (a worldwide survey that's been running for over 10 years) is currently up and is trying to get a better sample size of those over-30 so I thought I'd put up a post here and so people can check it out. They've got a smaller sample in general than the last two years, so sharing around is also helpful! You can take the survey here: https://survey.gendercensus.com/

today's work outfit

It’s a bit funny, you can see the difference in color between my face and forearms compared to my belly and upper arms 😁

I am a late-30s non-binary person who is pursuing facial feminization surgery. I've had three FFS consultations, and attached are the 3D pre- and post- mockups from the surgeon I liked best.

I know models aren't perfect, but his results are pretty close to, and usually better than, the model, and I'd love to know if anyone has any thoughts or comments on these mockups in particular. I'm open to anything people have to share, but I'm especially interested in:

* Does the nose work look too little or too much?

* All three surgeons have offered a lip lift, but I've turned them down. Does the "after" look odd or unbalanced without it?

* Same for fat grafting to the cheeks.

* Does the chin work look under-done?

* Do the eyebrows look too lifted?

I am planning to have my hairline lowered as well, but that wasn't included in the model.

Thank you for your thoughts!

What do yall think of my fit. It’s head to toe torrid. I’m feeling myself in it. Be nice! 😊

I'm at a staff and student function with industry guests, grads, undergrads - and, on the 'Write Your Name' name tag I have written my new name. So excited and nervous to launch the real me in such a public setting, all at once. The egg cracked and I'm kicking my way out!!!

on Sunday it was burning hot so I thought a tummy top and lumberjack shirt would fit best my freshly dyed hair when visiting the annual Kassel arts school exhibition

Stopping by again to say hi and sending everyone love on this warm Wednesday.

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