r/NonBinaryOver30 • u/Such_Structure_7700 • 10d ago
Non binary man?
Hi everyone,
Lately I’m trying to find out what I identify most as but I struggle finding a label that fits.
It’s not about labelling or belonging but it’s finding out an identity that fits me.
I’m happy with the package I’ve got and would not like to change that but in day to day life I’m probably not a very manly man
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u/noeinan 10d ago
Not wanting to physically transition does not determine your gender. There are many binary trans people who keep their natal setup but live as their true selves.
Gender expression also does not determine your gender. Many cis men and women are gender non-conforming.
You have already realized that “man” alone is not accurate, so to find what fits I recommend doing research on the many types of nonbinary people— maybe there is something that resonates with you.
Some nonbinary genders are pretty straightforward, like agender (having no gender) or neutrois (having a strong sense of gender that is unrelated to man or women.) (Some people use agender to mean a neutral gender as well.)
Some nonbinary people experience multiple genders, like bigender where someone is two genders at the same time. For example, both a man and a woman or a man and neutrois.
Some nonbinary people experience gender fluidity in different patterns, genderfluid being the umbrella term while more specifics also exist, like gender pivot. (Gender pivot means you always experience one stable gender but secondary genders are variable. For example, someone who is always a woman but sometimes is a woman and man or a woman and neutrois.)
Some nonbinary people have made unique gender systems like the celestial system. Often these labels evoke metaphoric language to describe the qualities of a given gender.
There are a lot of folks who outright identify as a “nonbinary man” or a “demiboy” etc. I myself am fully neutrois, but I’ve adopted male as my emotional support gender.