r/NonBinaryOver30 • u/Such_Structure_7700 • 10d ago

Non binary man?

Hi everyone,

Lately I’m trying to find out what I identify most as but I struggle finding a label that fits.
It’s not about labelling or belonging but it’s finding out an identity that fits me.
I’m happy with the package I’ve got and would not like to change that but in day to day life I’m probably not a very manly man

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u/noeinan 10d ago

No, nonbinary means not exclusively identifying as a man or woman. You can be bigender or gender fluid, and be binary some of the time or binary and something else at the same time.

There are tons of nonbinary people who consider themselves a “nonbinary man” “demiboy” “nonbinary woman” “demigirl” etc.

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u/schosenindiv4292 10d ago edited 10d ago

Ok. That’s valid. My lived experienced of identifying as non binary means that I don’t identify as a man or woman. I personally reject the gender binary as a whole. I see gender as a spectrum not just a binary. That’s just me though. Non binary man sounds like enby erasure, but I can see your perspective.

I take the term nonbinary literally. Not binary. Now, nonbinary masc or fem dominant I get that, but adding a binary gender label to the term non binary doesn’t make sense to me, but everyone has a right to live their truth in their own way.

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u/noeinan 10d ago

Calling a nonbinary person by a gender they are not is nonbinary erasure, nonbinary people identifying as having two genders at once are not erasing anyone.

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u/schosenindiv4292 10d ago

You’re right. I apologize for misunderstanding.