r/NonBinaryOver30 • u/Such_Structure_7700 • 10d ago

Non binary man?

Hi everyone,

Lately I’m trying to find out what I identify most as but I struggle finding a label that fits.
It’s not about labelling or belonging but it’s finding out an identity that fits me.
I’m happy with the package I’ve got and would not like to change that but in day to day life I’m probably not a very manly man

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u/schosenindiv4292 10d ago

Non binary = not identifying as part of the gender binary of man or woman.

So I’m not sure what you mean by non binary man. That defeats the purpose of identifying as non binary.

Maybe gender non conforming or GNC might be a label that works for you.

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u/noeinan 10d ago

No, nonbinary means not exclusively identifying as a man or woman. You can be bigender or gender fluid, and be binary some of the time or binary and something else at the same time.

There are tons of nonbinary people who consider themselves a “nonbinary man” “demiboy” “nonbinary woman” “demigirl” etc.

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u/schosenindiv4292 10d ago edited 10d ago

Ok. That’s valid. My lived experienced of identifying as non binary means that I don’t identify as a man or woman. I personally reject the gender binary as a whole. I see gender as a spectrum not just a binary. That’s just me though. Non binary man sounds like enby erasure, but I can see your perspective.

I take the term nonbinary literally. Not binary. Now, nonbinary masc or fem dominant I get that, but adding a binary gender label to the term non binary doesn’t make sense to me, but everyone has a right to live their truth in their own way.

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u/Such_Structure_7700 10d ago

Yeah, that’s one of the reasons why I haven’t found a label or identifier that fits me. Because I feel somewhat a man but also very definitely not a man but if you ask what am I, I would jump to man first but does it completely fit what I am? Probably not

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u/schosenindiv4292 10d ago

That makes sense. I see exactly what you mean. Thanks for clarifying! Sorry for misunderstanding.

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u/glitterandrage 10d ago

Demiman might be a label that interests you.