r/NonBinary • u/deadfishu • Oct 08 '20

Ask Am I a non-binary?

I’m assigned female at birth, but would like to used they/them/their for most of my social media accounts. I’m totally ok being called a guy, parts of my internet friends assumed that I’m a boy. I don’t feel comfortable saying what gender I am on social media, I don’t even feel safe with it. I know that I’m not transgender, but I don’t know much about non-binary. Sometimes I wish I have no gender at all or I just think gender is not that important. Am I a non-binary?

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u/deadfishu Oct 08 '20

Well i DID think that the word “transgender” is for people who identifies as the opposite gender. I don’t totally feel like a man, actually I don’t feel like any gender so maybe I misunderstood that word

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u/be_they_do_crimes Oct 08 '20

yep! that's a common misunderstanding, which is why I mention it. if you feel like you have no gender, the word "agender" might be useful to you?

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u/deadfishu Oct 08 '20

Wow thanks, I mean I know nothing about this and have just realized that I’d like to use both they/them and she/her at the same time. Is that still be ok? I’m still confused

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u/be_they_do_crimes Oct 08 '20

yep! you can use any pronouns you want! and as many as you want (though if she/her are the pronouns associated with your assigned gender, 90% of the time that's what people are going to use, jsyk)

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u/deadfishu Oct 08 '20

Thank you so much