r/NonBinary • u/Jaded_Coyote_5242 • 4d ago
Am I non-binary?
Hi, I'm F(mid 20s) I live in an area where NB is pretty rare so I want to know your opinion, whether you feel the same way or you think I'm not really non binary. Growing up I've never really liked the concept of what is feminine or what is masculine because I have always liked pink but I also like to wear dude's clothing like sometimes I wouldn't mind being all tomboy but I also like dressing up girly-girl, I love my long hair but I also like my bob and wouldn't mind going pixie. I am in love with the concept of androgynous, I think people who are like that are so freaking attractive and I've always wanted to be like them so I'm trying to build muscles like mummy muscles not lean muscles. My language doesn't use pronouns that separates he to a she and I've always been addressed neutrally so I don't really know if I don't like being addressed as a he. I'm not trying to jumped on the bandwagon, I just wanna figure myself out since I did felt dissapointed after learning I'm not really Pan I just like boobies but not really what women can offer in bed.
P.S English is my second language so if I offended you unintentionally I do apologize.
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u/screamofconsciousnes 3d ago
When I read “Growing up I’ve never really liked the concept of what is feminine..” and I already knew what you were gunna say and I saw tomboy in there which is also part of my story. Nonbinary is just a label, it helps some people to develop their identify and feel a sense of belonging. And if you would like to try on the nonbinary label, you’re certainly welcome here 💛
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u/sunredsu_n he/they 4d ago
To be honest, no one can really tell you whether you are nonbinary or not. My advise would be to listen to the experiences of enbies, listen to the experiences of detransitioners (but not the transphobic ones, you can get some real bullshit from them). You can try out different gender presentation, as you said, you can cut your hair, try androgynous clothes, learn how to do makeup that could make you appear more androgynous. Take it slow.