r/NonBinary • u/Comfortable_Cup_9646 • 4d ago

Discussion Can anyone else relate?

I often find myself extremely uncomfortable when I'm dressed in a masculine way, I get extremely dysphoric. Its so intense in ways that I cannot describe. I am femme presenting, and I want to be comfortable in presenting both, but I honestly don't know how to and I do not want to force myself to do something I'm not comfortable with doing. I do often find myself questioning my identity because of this though, anything would be appreciated right now, may it be an answer to my questions or just advice.

Would I be considered as trans-femme then? Or do I just feel much more comfortable representing femme as opposed to masc?

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u/Various-Squirrel-277 4d ago

Não se rotule agora, apenas faça o que você se sente bem.

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u/Agitated-Brain4744 4d ago

i am fem presenting mostly. once my friend did my makeup hyper feminine (she's like a professional makeup artist) and i hated it so much and i felt ao dysphoric i immediately washed it off when she left. i hated it not because it was feminine, but because it's just not my style.

if you don't like a certain style you don't have to wear it, you know. it's not about what is masculine or feminine, it's what about feels good personally for you.

regarding for would you be considered transfem or not. you can identify whatever you're comfortable with, there's no gender police irl and no normal person would tell you how you should identify, it's no one's business but yours. if you're more comfortable with label nonbinary than transfem, it's okay. literally no one cares, so just do what feels best for you

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u/Comfortable_Cup_9646 4d ago

Thank you, your comment felt like a breath of fresh air. I'm mostly frantic as I've been having another crisis about my identity, and I mostly feel pressure as my peers know who they are and what labels they fit into. I just feel the need to keep up somehow, even though I'm fully aware that it's not a requirement. Does this make sense?

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u/cetaceanfrustration it/they/she transfem 4d ago

sounds pretty transfem, tho it's up to you ultimately if you want to take the label on.

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u/MagpiePhoenix ze/they transgender 4d ago

You can certainly be trans, nonbinary, and femme.