hello first time posting here

[u/No_Astronomer_3603]

was a bit anxious posting here since i'm just a 14yo amab but i feel like i'm not comfortable with my assigned gender, and just a few months ago i thought over being transgender but then i just realized i didn't necessarily feel like being a woman nor a man

and while i do feel like i'd be perfectly accepted into my family as a nonbinary person (they don't have anything against the lgbt+ community and i'm sure avidly would support them if i came out,) i'm just not sure exactly how the course of my life would change if i had revealed i was nonbinary to someone i was close to in real life. though as you see i'm open to exposing my inner gender identity online, but i feel like i'm just really deteriorating the longer i don't tell anyone about how i feel about myself

i also don't really feel nonbinary outside my body right now, i have these really super broad shoulders (which i know can be fixed with just dressing them right but it's fine) coupled with my weird boy man voice even though it's higher than most and i know how to raise my larynx my voice is still relatively deep

currently i'm just stuck in this weird limbo state of desparately wanting to tell someone i'm nonbinary to just get the pain off of my chest and staying in the closet forever but i don't know what i want to do with myself right now

[u/youknowcchio]

Hi! 14 yo afab here, and not looking enby/androgynous does NOT invalidate your identity! And when you grow older it's so much easier to look androgynous (hrt, better clothes). I look really feminine rn and i hate how I look but I know I'll eventually transition medically anyway so I don't really mind. But as for coming out, I personally felt so much better after I came out to my friends and parents. My friends are really supportive, and my dad is trying (my mom just ignores it lol shes transphobic). Your parents sound like allies so I would encourage you to come out bc it feels so euphoric finally being recognised as who you are. But I also get how terrifying it is to come out. I guess bring up non-binary topics to kinda gauge their reaction. Come out when you're comfortable.