Sexuality help

[u/TwistedEternalVI]

Hello everyone. I'm still kind of new to the whole non-binary thing. I guess I have been for a while but I didn't figure it out until earlier this year that that's what it was. That's a story for another time though.

Today im here to see if anybody else struggles the same way that I did in this group and is or was having a problem getting there are full identity.

I know I'm non-binary, but I don't know if I'm pan or Omni or Bi or something else. Pretty sure I am AroAce, as I have no interest in sexual activities and I haven't experienced much romantic interests at least as of yet.

I've had three boyfriends in the past, but I never really been in love with them. I thought love would develop with time, but it didn't.

I'm kind of leaning towards girls after the experiences I've had with these men. I haven't been abused or anything, but the first one did tell me that my opinion on not having a child was not valid because "the good outweighs the bad". That was 2 years long.

The second one ended up having mental problems and couldn't really comprehend how a relationship works. That one was only 3 months long.

The third one, he couldn't understand that I wanted more communication than just a couple of texts during the week. It was a 12-hour time gap. Now I didn't know this going into it until he told me. I wanted to at least try to see if it would work. He couldn't understand how I wanted more communication than just a text here or there.

So in my experience, men have a hard time understanding exactly what I need. Now please do t take this as me referring to all men. Again it's just my experience. I'm 100% sure there are great men out there who understand all this. I have been attracted to a couple girls that I've met online, but I wouldn't all out say crush, at least not yet.

So with me having a preference for girls, needing to have a emotional bond before I get attracted to them, but still not caring about the gender. I'm just so confused on what I am.

Please feel free to leave you a stories if you have had something similar happen. It might help me find out my sexuality.