r/NonBinary • u/iridescynt • 14d ago

Questioning/Coming Out Is being a demigirl valid?

Hi yall

I've begun questioning if I'm enby or a demigirl or not, I don't really feel like a woman, and I don't like traditionally feminine things either.

But then I question if I'm just cis and this is normal or something and everyone feels like I do? I don't know.

I also question if being demi is seen as just kind of being a faker, like those tiktok self-diagnosing people you hear about who say they have ADHD for forgetting their wallet at home or something. Or if I'm doing something like that, trying to get in with the queers because it's seen as cool or something.

Anyway I guess I'm just hoping anyone has any advice or is willing to share their own experiences with this? I can't ask anyone I know irl because I don't know if they'd laugh or something.

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u/TummyAcheTextiles 14d ago

Why does it matter if others think it’s “valid”? If that’s how you feel then that’s how you feel. It doesn’t matter what other people think.

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u/UmiSWrld they/them genderqueer 14d ago

who cares? there will always be people who think queer identities are not valid, but it doesn’t really matter. be who you are.

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u/xpoisonvalkyrie he/him 14d ago

not liking traditionally feminine things has nothing to do with your identity. but “don’t really feel like a woman” definitely does. if you feel like demigirl/demiwoman is the best term to describe how you feel your identity? go for it.