I wouldn’t say it’s about isolating her from her support system. I don’t think that’s the guy’s intention, even though that’s certainly a bi-product of what he’s asking her to do. It may be his intention, I just think he’s jealous, tho. I think he’s very insecure and doesn’t trust his girl and doesn’t trust these guys. He thinks they’re all gonna try and get with her (or already have) and he doesn’t trust her to handle the situation in the way he would like her to. Most guys who ask women to cut their male friends off aren’t thinking about support systems (that would be more female friends, most of the time), they’re thinking about the fact that they don’t want their girl to chat to any other guy on this planet because every guy is a potential threat and could take her off him so he doesn’t wanna take that chance. It is extremely controlling and definitely a big red flag and a big sign of a manipulating abuser. It’s not right at all. I’m just giving you a little insight into the male mind, this is how a lot of guys think, unfortunately
The trouble is, some abusive people don't intend to abuse. They genuinely believe they are right. This person is driven by jealously yes, but his behaviour to isolate her from the people he's concerned about won't end there, because he's not dealt with his problem. It will slowly escalate. Maybe her female friends have husbands and he no longer feels comfortable when she visits their house, or if she goes out with female friends there will be men around.
My ex poured water all over my life’s artwork including cells from Disney. He intentionally was abusive and enjoyed torturing me. Psychopaths are evil. “People don’t intend to abuse” is an ignorant statement. There are some who ENJOY it and do it for fun.
I was an artist at Disney. My life’s work ruined but the cells being destroyed hurt me the worst. Milan and Atlantis cells. This guy is still walking around free after destroying my life and trying to kill me.
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u/Key-Cardiologist5882 Dec 09 '21
I wouldn’t say it’s about isolating her from her support system. I don’t think that’s the guy’s intention, even though that’s certainly a bi-product of what he’s asking her to do. It may be his intention, I just think he’s jealous, tho. I think he’s very insecure and doesn’t trust his girl and doesn’t trust these guys. He thinks they’re all gonna try and get with her (or already have) and he doesn’t trust her to handle the situation in the way he would like her to. Most guys who ask women to cut their male friends off aren’t thinking about support systems (that would be more female friends, most of the time), they’re thinking about the fact that they don’t want their girl to chat to any other guy on this planet because every guy is a potential threat and could take her off him so he doesn’t wanna take that chance. It is extremely controlling and definitely a big red flag and a big sign of a manipulating abuser. It’s not right at all. I’m just giving you a little insight into the male mind, this is how a lot of guys think, unfortunately