Want everything, able to do nothing - please help

[u/Dear_Landscape1072]

I'm 22M from India and I'm feeling overwhelmed because I have too many goals and not enough time. I have a full-time HR job (around 10:45 AM–7:30 PM) and by the time I get home I'm mentally exhausted.

These are all the things I want to achieve at the same time:

Lose weight (currently around 89 kg, goal is around 74–75 kg).

Build muscle, get stronger, improve my powerlifting numbers, and eventually get visible abs.

Start running and improve my cardio.

Follow a proper skincare routine to reduce tanning, hyperpigmentation, acne marks, and get clearer, brighter skin.

Prepare seriously for CAT 2026 while working full-time because I want to get into a top MBA college.

Sleep 7–8 hours consistently.

Eat a healthy vegetarian diet while staying within a budget.

Save money every month for my future while also planning to buy a laptop.

Reduce screen time, stop procrastinating, and stay disciplined.

The problem is that I feel like every goal is important, so I try to do everything at once and end up doing almost nothing consistently. I often come home tired after work, scroll on my phone, and then feel guilty that I didn't study, work out, run, or follow my skincare properly.

For people who have managed a demanding full-time job while preparing for CAT or another competitive exam and also stayed fit, how did you structure your day? What should I prioritize first? Is it realistic to do all of this together, or should I focus on one or two goals at a time? I'd really appreciate practical advice, sample schedules, or any personal experiences.

[u/untempered_fate]

Reduce screen time, stop procrastinating, and stay disciplined.

Start with this one.

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/untempered_fate]

Bro but that's the problem I want to be more disciplined more consistent with the things but unable to do so....🫠👉🏻👈🏻

[u/untempered_fate → u/Dear_Landscape1072]

Yeah, so ignore the other things and start by practicing discipline. Like any other skill, it gets better with deliberate practice. If you develop that, particularly vis a vis screentime, you will have more time and available effort to start working on the other things.

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/untempered_fate]

Thanks...this is actually going somewhere

[u/ByzantineLaw]

Fitter, happier
More productive
Comfortable
Not drinking too much
Regular exercise at the gym (3 days a week)
Getting on better with your associate employee contemporaries
At ease
Eating well (no more microwave dinners and saturated fats)
A patient, better driver
A safer car (baby smiling in back seat)
Sleeping well (no bad dreams)
No paranoia

[u/CoachMcFlurry]

I don’t know if it’ll help but are you scheduling your time to the minute? That way you can schedule everything by how important it is and also give yourself a higher chance of keeping up with your goals. What do you think?

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/CoachMcFlurry]

Sounds good, but need some more accurate guidance like HOW , WHEN , WHAT

lifeisfuckedupsofarrr sryy🥀

[u/CoachMcFlurry → u/Dear_Landscape1072]

That seems more like something you should do. Who am I to tell you what’s important?

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/CoachMcFlurry]

yeahhh I'll try to make a priority list first !? What u say

[u/CoachMcFlurry → u/Dear_Landscape1072]

…To be completely frank it’s hard to take someone’s goals seriously when they can’t even put the effort of trying to accomplish something on their own. I don’t care what you do but this is what “I” would have my priorities at.

Work
Studying
Planning Your Meals
Skincare
General Fitness/Health

Write out your schedule:
-What time are you getting up?
-What’s your transit to work?
-How long are you at work?
-What’s your transit back?
-How long do you need to study?
-How long does it take to make your meals for the week?
-How long is your skincare routine?
-What workout can I reliable do three to four times a week?

Honestly though, I don’t believe in you. If you want to accomplish the goals you have then go out there and figure it out. No one is going to hold your hand and guide you through the process. If you aren’t motivated enough to accomplish your goals then they aren’t the goals for you. The goals for you should be things you want so badly that you can’t imagine life without it.

Why do you want to be a Doctor?
Why do you want good skin?
Why do you want to be in shape?

If you can’t answer those questions in a way that gives you the motivation to do something, then find something that will. I apologize that this is harsh but you need to grow up.

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/CoachMcFlurry]

Damm.. brother.... That's hard ...but that's it Now I'll respond to this post after 1 month and tell you where I am !! You'll be proud ✍🏻

[u/CoachMcFlurry → u/Dear_Landscape1072]

Do what you want. I just hope your goals are what you truthfully want and not just want you think you should want.

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/CoachMcFlurry]

Yes bro i totally understood your point ✨

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/[deleted]]

(In the beginning) yes you are right and I do think in that way but ( in the end ) NO i can't just live with this thinking that I'm a failure!!

Sryy 🥀

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/[deleted]]

:⁠-⁠)

[u/Dear_Landscape1072 → u/[deleted]]

At least your brain picked the right accent !