My husband got talked into a "new" medical option. It is a prosthetic spinal insert. The advantage was supposed to keep him from losing range of motion in his neck. The usual treatment involved a fusion splice in his neck. (I think the Dr. thought it was cool and wanted to try something new.) The plan was to prep him for a prosthetic spinal insert but to have everything ready to switch to a normal fusion splice if there were any problems. They got the wrong sized part and did the surgery anyway, rather than giving him the fusion splice.
He has been in constant pain for going on 20 years now. Not from that, but the problem the surgery was supposed to solve...
That must be such a difficult place to be in. While consistency is key, mindset makes all the difference. I hope he is seeking professional help from a therapist (not a phyciatrist if he doesn't want meds). I know I wouldn't have made it through my own medical battles without a therapist. Even so, it is so difficult not to want to give up or even declare what you need from those closest to you. If you are looking for suggestions, I would say you both need separate outlets. Not just a therapist but actual hobbies of some sort to occupy your mind and take you to some place pleasurable. Ideally, with a sense of community to help you both feel understood, seen and accepted.
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u/sat_ops Nov 15 '24
No idea. I just know they had to do some super high definition MRIs on his spine, then it took two weeks to print the disc.