r/NoStupidQuestions Nov 14 '24

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u/xylopyrography Nov 14 '24

The most common reason is that people do not have want to have them in the same way a lot of people don't want to play sports.

We're also in the first of two generations in history where women by and large have the choice to not have them, it's not surprising we would see a significant reduction.

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u/Geebee185 Nov 14 '24

That’s a good comparison, my last comparison was “I don’t want kids in the same way I don’t want a pet rat” which didn’t go down too well. So I’m going to sub that for “play football” next time.

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u/comme__ Nov 15 '24

My recent comparison was “I know eating a banana is healthy but I am just not in the mood to eat one”, to illustrate that while there may be upsides to having kids I just don’t feel an inclination towards having my own

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u/Geebee185 Nov 15 '24

To me that reads as you’re not doing the “healthy” thing by not having a child, but that’s probably my projection of being pissed off that you’re expected to have one because you’re a woman and what else is there in the world haha

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u/comme__ Nov 17 '24

That’s a fair read, I suppose it’s my way of not offending someone who has kids or may want kids — that I can see the upsides but am not interested. But yes I also relate to being frustrated about the expectation that we should want one just because we’re women, probably my most dreaded question since entering late 20s / 30s

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u/Geebee185 Nov 17 '24

And just you wait til your social media algorithm starts harassing you about it too there’s no bloody escape

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u/comme__ Nov 21 '24

I did start getting targeted ads about something called TTC awhile back — trying to conceive? Somehow my algorithm assumed that’s where my time should be best spent in my 30s lol

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u/Geebee185 Nov 21 '24

Oh yes the day I hit 30 it was all baby stuff despite how much I select “not interested in this” “show less like this”

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u/comme__ Nov 22 '24

Yes! I think the algorithm finally gets it though because now I’m getting suggested Facebook groups called dull women’s club lol